Well, it finally happened.

[Robert]

Ok I'm dieing waiting to know whats going on...

[Racing Rice]

She says she didn't want to tell me because she didn't want me to get mad. I dunno, I mean, we all do something like that every now and again. Who really knows. We've been together for nine years and she's never really given me a reason not to believe her in the past.

It's one of those things were you don't want to go over board when in reality nothing is happening, but then again can one really be sure what is happening?


As for, where she was the night that she left. She said she stayed at a hotel trying to sort things out.

Honestly, it is hard as hell not to jump to conclusions. I think as humans once trust has been compromised we tend to focus on the negatives whether they exist or not. Like I said before, I'm going to do everything in my power to make this work. If I fail, atleast I can say I was the bigger person in this relationship and atleast keep my head held high. Not that it was ease the pain of the whole ordeal, but atleast hopefully later it will help me retain some sort of self comfort.

So for now, I'm just taking life day by day and trying to make the best out of what I still have. No one knows what will happen tomorrow, but I'm just going to try to make the best out of today and not worry about it. Yes, you could probably call me a fool but that is just how I am.

If for some reason this relationship does fail. Atleast some woman will get a good man sooner or later. I just have to hope that I can get a good woman.

[GT40FIED]

I wouldn't call you a fool, I'd call you cautious....which is exactly what you should be. I've found, however, that once trust is breached in a relationship, it's incredibly hard if not impossible to get it back totally. Even if she comes around this time, what are you going to think the next time she starts acting strangely? Or the time after that. And for what it's worth, while she might have stayed at a hotel, a credit card receipt doesn't tell you that she was alone. Again, I'm not trying to rain on your parade, but no one hides a friend...even a confidant...from a spouse unless they have good reason to. I think I can safely say you're not a violent person or even a person with a temper Jeremy...so why did she need to feel like she had to run away? A rational person would've stayed to talk things over.

I don't know...maybe it's my distrust of women speaking, but this whole thing just stinks to me. I have good reason to distrust women, but maybe you don't. Go with your gut, don't be easily fooled, and try to get to the bottom of this with as little fanfare as possible.

[Robert]

Originally Posted by GT40FIED

I wouldn't call you a fool, I'd call you cautious....which is exactly what you should be. I've found, however, that once trust is breached in a relationship, it's incredibly hard if not impossible to get it back totally. Even if she comes around this time, what are you going to think the next time she starts acting strangely? Or the time after that. And for what it's worth, while she might have stayed at a hotel, a credit card receipt doesn't tell you that she was alone. Again, I'm not trying to rain on your parade, but no one hides a friend...even a confidant...from a spouse unless they have good reason to. I think I can safely say you're not a violent person or even a person with a temper Jeremy...so why did she need to feel like she had to run away? A rational person would've stayed to talk things over.

I don't know...maybe it's my distrust of women speaking, but this whole thing just stinks to me. I have good reason to distrust women, but maybe you don't. Go with your gut, don't be easily fooled, and try to get to the bottom of this with as little fanfare as possible.

Took the words right out of my mouth.

Should Nikki pull something like this on me they Jeremy I would be doing the same thing. Though I dont believe the bit about hidding it to stop you from getting mad, unless you have displayed rage around her having men friends before.