bored, long post

I think the best answer is also one you most likely will not taken knowingly or on your own terms. It'll probably come on its own and with the help of others.

At this point you should just put this past yourself. You can't just forget about this girl as our brains are not capable of just erasing memory, but you have to see that you made the choice already, you're just here to figure out why you made it. I know I'm using Matrix terminology but I think it applies well to life. All in all things are inevitable and all things that have a beginning have an end. Whether it takes a short time to get there or a long time is a different path for a different person. So if things die down between you and her and you dont' ever see each other, as much as you would want to reverse things and as much as it might scar you, things happened for a reason. Unfortunately I can't take my own medicine as a remedy for my problems as I'll go into denial just like you might, since denial is just a state of mind which allows for a possibility of improvement, no matter how small the probability is, but a small chance is better than nothing. So all I can say is let things take care of themselves. If she calls, talk to her, ask her where she wants to stand once and for all. Make her choose, maybe not then and there but in the next day or two. If she leaves you, unfortunately it had to happen that way. You either a.) find a much better person in the future or b.) somehow she might come back into your path in the future. Either way at that point it's more or less beyond your control. So just ask and then go on from there.