why do girls say 1 thing but do another

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Originally posted by DsBlu01CivEX
girls are just sh!theads. You guys will eventually learn to deal with this....maybe It's easy for us to say "what we want" in a guy and then go for the complete opposite type cuz see we don't want to loose the friendship we have with the nice guy we go to to complain about our shithead bad boys.(assuming we have the nice guy as a friend to begin with) Now granted what we say to our nice guy friend may sound EXACTLY like him, but we never see those guys as dating material. By the time we do see them as dating/relationship material, some dirrty girl has her hands on him and we're trying to persuade him that she's a skank but by this time it's too late. Just give us time...we all come out of the stage at some point. Until then just keep helpin your girl friends through their phases.

and counter-point....

I dunno about that...I've been the subject of many of those friendships. It's total crap. I'll become interested in one of my friends and then all I ever hear about are their leather-wearing alcoholic boyfriends and how they treat these girls like shit. But hey...why would you leave someone just because he treats you like shit? I've also learned that when a girl says she "doesn't want to ruin our friendship", it usually means "you're really nice and probably what I need in my life but you're not attractive enough and you probably won't beat me daily so I can't be with you". Face it...women love attention and even negative attention is still attention. I don't think it's such a good thing to keep putting up with that shit from a female friend. If you truely want to be with someone tell them to put up or shut up. If you're a nice guy and she says she wants that then it shouldn't be hard for her to ditch some asshole who just wants to get laid. I know that sounds harsh, but you can't control the way you feel about people and the hurt of watching someone you truely care about or love getting shit on while you'd worship them will eventually eat you from the inside out. It's hard as hell but if somebody won't see what you've got to offer then what's the point in hanging around and just causing yourself hurt...unless, of course, you feel like padding your psychologist's wallet later in life.

That was beatiful man, took the words out of my mouth, I'm speechless.


I went and are still going through that SAME EXACT FU*KING situation. Its such bullshit.

Okay, (get ready long story). Back in the merry'ol days of high-school. Now, picture me here for a second, 5' 11" 130lb (skinny)alternative type guy. Not that many "alternative" chicks around that weren't ****ed in the head. Just one... her name was megan. Now, megan was going out with a total loser drug-addict shithead... she got pregnant by him, NOT ONCE BUT TWICE!! Both times I WAS THERE. Not him, he was too busy getting high and taking off on her. Not one bit of emotional or financial support. I can understand the money part, its hard going to school and work. But he didn't even hold her hand through any of this shit.

But I diiiddddd..... I even tried to accept the fact I MIGHT be these kids only idea of a father. You girls all know what its like, having a pregnant friend, they are very crabby... lol. But man, I can tell you one thing, I never seen a more happier mom then she was when I was over, always smiling and happy. Which is good. Because stress can lead to miscarrage, and by god I wasn't going to let dumbass cause her to lose it. So yea, I pretty much was the only person that didn't look at her differently for being pregnant, twice.

That was 3 years ago, the first kid is almost 2, and the other one is 1. To this date, I have STILL no gotten ONE DATE. Not one. Not even to dinner! Nothing. Not one kiss. Nothing. No thanks. Nothing.

I got nothing out of it, yet, I am this "really caring nice sensitve guy, and if I was looking for someone it'd be you."


Yea. You have no idea how depressed this makes me, I mean REALLY depressed, to the point my sleep and eat schedules get fubared. This has happened alot more then I care to remember, and every single person I meet or have an intrest in, just further depresses me. For the simple fact I don't know if its me? Maybe there isn't a place for guys like me, people who don't think about sex 80% of the day. (Not that I don't mind, but its the furtherest thing in my mind.)

About the whole "alternative/goth/punk" thing, call it whatever you want, labels mean nothing, but you get the idea when I say it right?




Sorry about all the rambling and maybe excessive amount of profanity, I had to vent.







Well atleast people might get an idea of who I am.