.:HSTuners::

*pdiggitydogg* · 09-08-2003, 10:16 PM

Well the other day at the mall (just wasting some time) I saw the cutest girl working in american eagle. I would really like to ask this girl out, but I keep thinking that it would be weird because it was the first time Ive seen her.

Picking up girls at class or the gym is one thing...but the mall? I have no clue how to go about this...

"Hi could you help me find some pants?"
"sure"
*pat finds some pants in his size*
"hey thanks...wanna go out?"

See?! Doesnt that seem weird?

help me out asap because Im gonna head back to the mall tomorrow (tuesday) to see if she's there...and again later in the week if she isnt...

09-08-2003, 11:07 PM

you don't say "hey wanna go out"
you say. hey when do you have break? want to grab a bite to eat or a coffee or something.
something along those lines. no pressure. you're not forcing a relationship on her.

*pdiggitydogg* · 09-08-2003, 11:26 PM

yeah yeah i was only using that as a humorus example

Wren57 · 09-08-2003, 11:32 PM

hahah yo dim you givin out advice now? thats friggin funny to me

no offense, of course

just go to the mall when it is REALLY slow there and hangout in the store talkin to her, then after a while if you feel like it, go for it...

BlackWolf · 09-09-2003, 08:16 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by highlander
...just go to the mall when it is REALLY slow there and hangout in the store talkin to her, then after a while if you feel like it, go for it...

Here, here! Just be yourself and just ask her. I mean the worst she could say would be no. What about talking to her like Juvenile said, that would work for me. Charm and a cute smile go a long way...................wierdos get mall security!

09-09-2003, 09:37 AM

Pick up pants, go into dressing room, walk right back out and ask her if she can help you get outta your drawers.

I dunno man, best I'd say is probably to just try chatting with her a little in the store....if things go well, ask her if she'd like to chat more later over lunch or coffee or something. If things don't go well, you're just another shopper so no big deal.

Then again....I'm about the worst person when it comes to meeting people/asking girls out, so maybe you don't want my advice.

b

ebpda9 · 09-09-2003, 10:42 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by pdiggitydogg

"Hi could you help me find some pants?"
"sure"
*pat finds some pants in his size*
"hey thanks...wanna go out?"

or the last line should something like this:
wanna get in my pants ?

i really have no advice because i am all silent around new ppl especially girls

BlackWolf · 09-09-2003, 11:18 AM

Hey guys, honestly, give her a sweet smile, say hi and go from there. No, not a come-hither-slimey-I-want-you-in-my-porno smile. Just a nice-sweet-guy-next-door smile. Oh, and no cheesy pick up lines either! Instant turn off!

Direct and self confident smiles always work for me. Actually self confidence is really sexy, but just don't act like you own the place, just confident in yourself. BTW, a little shy is ok too. Sometimes it's really cute.

Especially with the smile!

09-09-2003, 12:18 PM

Go into the store & sai

Hi how are u

could u helpe me with some thing

i couldont help my self noticing u each time i come to this mall

u seem to be a very nice girl

have u been working here for long

Then as ''La Loba Loca'' said give her nice-sweet-guy-next-door smile

she will for shure smile has well so then u ask her

would u like a drink after u finish work or when have a break

make sure u keep on nice-sweet-guy-next-door smile

if she says ill think about it u say

OK then, could i have your fone number so i can call u when ur finish work, keep a pen and paper handy in your poket and show it to her when u ask her for the number, she will be impressed to see that u know what u want

if she dosent have a number say can i call u wille ur working and take a american eagle buiseness card

she will notice all your movements so keep looking strait @ her eyes wille u speak to her

if none of that works forget her, ther are plenty more girls out there move on and try again & again till u get it right

basicaly u just have to play the girls game,girls are all diferent they, already know what type of guy they look for, but they dont know what type of guy is going to come up to them, keep a clean mind and concentrate on the subject @ hand some girls start to stress out u make up a realy funy joke so they smile then just be direct they like that because ur maiking them gess things so they get exited and start imagining things like has if they were going out with u all ready

i hope this helps u

I havont got a girl friend but i know this works for me the last sumer iv been practicing this almost every were i see a nice girl most i just become friends some i end up going out

Try it with your words u will see that its not to dificult

DsBlu01CivEX · 09-09-2003, 07:20 PM

ok...I'm not such a good one to give advice either since I really suck at picking up guys (and girls thank god!

) But Everyone has given good pieces of advice so far.

I'd say go in looking for a shirt...and ask her for her help. Grab a couple of shirts, try each one on, asking her which one she thinks looks best on you. Tell her that you are trying to pick out the most perfect shirt becuase you are hoping to look your best for a first date with this girl that you are trying to get to know. She'll tell you which one looks best, and you say "Great! Thanks for all your help....oh by the way....you're the girl that I was hoping to go out on the date with. Would you give me the pleasure of your company?"

I dunno if that would work on all girls, but if a cute guy came up to me and did that I'd be pretty flattered...it would show that he cares about what he looks like. This interaction also gives you the opportunity to get to know her a lil bit and to see if you would like going out with her.

09-09-2003, 07:39 PM

It dosent mater if u look good
if u got money
if u are smart
if u are shy
if u are skiny\fat
all u got to show to a girl to impress her is your personality and if u got that sorted then u got girls girls girls

*pdiggitydogg* · 09-09-2003, 07:40 PM

^^oo hey now...thats pretty smooth indeed

Dont know if I'll try that it though

I didnt make it up to the mall today, and it wont happen tomorrow..maybe thurs or friday (it was friday that i saw her the last time so maybe thats the best chance)

And Im not really worried about her saying no...not a massive loss...wouldnt be the first and wont be the last. TONS of new girls this yr at school and lots of cuties in all my classes...well not that health one...but the rest there are

Grip72 · 09-09-2003, 09:48 PM

oh man, i wish i had girls in my classes. I am the WORST person for introducing myself or meeting girls. Usually its just small talk like "this weather sort of sucks hey" blach blach blach...."you like school so far?" ...elevator talk mostly. It sucks, i'm so shy and have no self confidence. I think this sums it up:
I can talk to girls that i think I am "better" than, (not in a mean way, but like girls that i think would consider me goodlooking)
I CAN'T talk to girls that i think I am not good enough for. I haev a hard time talking to ridicously hot girls....it sucks.
I just can't start a conversation....girls have to make the move for me...man i'm a wreck

*pdiggitydogg* · 09-09-2003, 10:01 PM

dude im pretty much in that world...workin my way out.
Its just a girl man...Ive finally learned that. Dont try and think too much about talkin...just do it. Say whatever...who cares?...well say whatever within reason...not "your boobs are huge!" or whatever. If they blow you off...to hell with em...that just means theyre bitches and you wouldnt want anything to do with them anyway.
(look at me given advice on something I need help with...ironic)

Wren57 · 09-09-2003, 10:05 PM

^heh, you just proved it's easier said than done...

sucks for me, I went out w/ one girl for almost two years and now we are seperated at college... I gotta get used to the whole meeting new girls thing again, damn...

Grip72 · 09-09-2003, 10:12 PM

ya, i've REALLY been out of the whole 'dating' and crush scene for a while. I just haven't seen/met any girls that i've really been intereseted in. But its WAY harder to tell your self "ok kyle, you can do this...just talk to her...if she's a *****....to hell with her..."
but that is SO hard to do when you like a girl or think you would want to go out with a certain someone. Rejection is so hard on an already low self-confidence. It will make me feel even more less of myself...that's what i'm worried about

ebpda9 · 09-09-2003, 10:15 PM

AMEN to that

DsBlu01CivEX · 09-09-2003, 10:16 PM

i can talk to just about any guy....but to ask one out- OH HELL NO! Can't do it. I can give advice to other people, but I can't follow my own advice. The guys I've had interest in, have NEVER known...ever. I hate rejection of any sort. So I just shelter myself from that by never letting anyone be able to do it to me. I don't like having my heart broken.

*pdiggitydogg* · 09-09-2003, 10:44 PM

no one likes to get shot-down...it doesnt feel good...its just one of those things that you need to either get used to or suffer from it for the rest of your life. So ya feel like shit now and then...that happens regardless anyways

mylittlecivic · 09-10-2003, 03:07 AM

so when are ya gonna go get her?

*pdiggitydogg* · 09-10-2003, 10:56 AM

well thursday is the next available chance...I'll let you know

09-11-2003, 05:16 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by CivicSR
Go into the store & sai

Hi how are u

could u helpe me with some thing

i couldont help my self noticing u each time i come to this mall

u seem to be a very nice girl

have u been working here for long

Then as ''La Loba Loca'' said give her nice-sweet-guy-next-door smile

she will for shure smile has well so then u ask her

would u like a drink after u finish work or when have a break

make sure u keep on nice-sweet-guy-next-door smile

if she says ill think about it u say

OK then, could i have your fone number so i can call u when ur finish work, keep a pen and paper handy in your poket and show it to her when u ask her for the number, she will be impressed to see that u know what u want

if she dosent have a number say can i call u wille ur working and take a american eagle buiseness card

she will notice all your movements so keep looking strait @ her eyes wille u speak to her

if none of that works forget her, ther are plenty more girls out there move on and try again & again till u get it right

basicaly u just have to play the girls game,girls are all diferent they, already know what type of guy they look for, but they dont know what type of guy is going to come up to them, keep a clean mind and concentrate on the subject @ hand some girls start to stress out u make up a realy funy joke so they smile then just be direct they like that because ur maiking them gess things so they get exited and start imagining things like has if they were going out with u all ready

i hope this helps u

I havont got a girl friend but i know this works for me the last sumer iv been practicing this almost every were i see a nice girl most i just become friends some i end up going out

Try it with your words u will see that its not to dificult

Then they are turned off by your bad spelling and grammar, sorry man had to say it

*pdiggitydogg* · 09-11-2003, 06:44 PM

back from the mall.....

09-11-2003, 09:41 PM

Shot 2 Hel

Quote:

Then they are turned off by your bad spelling and grammar, sorry man had to say it

Thats the way......................

Man, but i balive u got 2 say what u have say wen u think ofv it & that is te ky..........................

Not bad spelling and grammar > what does that have to due with it.

If u grow up a litle it helps 2...............

I mean look @ the time u hould ofv leanrt something up 2now............

Whiteclipse99 · 09-12-2003, 08:09 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by pdiggitydogg
back from the mall.....

I'm sorry Pat! We've all been down that road before and it sucks! I know I definitely have. If she doesn't want to take the time to get to know you, then she's not worth it.

BlackWolf · 09-12-2003, 08:16 AM

^^^ Exactly!

*pdiggitydogg* · 09-12-2003, 09:28 AM

eh im not that concerned about it. Its not like i had a crush on her or anything...after all I did just see her for the 1st time recently. And hey, there are tons of girls in my classes.

09-08-2003, 10:16 PM	#1
pdiggitydogg Yahoo Watashi wa kattaze! Join Date: May 2002 Location: Meanwhile, up in The D... Age: 40 Posts: 10,579	need some help with this one... Well the other day at the mall (just wasting some time) I saw the cutest girl working in american eagle. I would really like to ask this girl out, but I keep thinking that it would be weird because it was the first time Ive seen her. Picking up girls at class or the gym is one thing...but the mall? I have no clue how to go about this... "Hi could you help me find some pants?" "sure" pat finds some pants in his size "hey thanks...wanna go out?" See?! Doesnt that seem weird? help me out asap because Im gonna head back to the mall tomorrow (tuesday) to see if she's there...and again later in the week if she isnt...

09-08-2003, 11:32 PM	#4
Wren57 Registered User Join Date: Feb 2002 Age: 39 Posts: 2,856	hahah yo dim you givin out advice now? thats friggin funny to me no offense, of course just go to the mall when it is REALLY slow there and hangout in the store talkin to her, then after a while if you feel like it, go for it... __________________ yeah, its that big

09-09-2003, 11:18 AM	#8
BlackWolf La Loba Loca Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Nor Cal Posts: 1,016	Hey guys, honestly, give her a sweet smile, say hi and go from there. No, not a come-hither-slimey-I-want-you-in-my-porno smile. Just a nice-sweet-guy-next-door smile. Oh, and no cheesy pick up lines either! Instant turn off! Direct and self confident smiles always work for me. Actually self confidence is really sexy, but just don't act like you own the place, just confident in yourself. BTW, a little shy is ok too. Sometimes it's really cute. Especially with the smile! __________________ Does the noise in my head bother you??

09-09-2003, 07:20 PM	#10
DsBlu01CivEX Registered User Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: York Age: 43 Posts: 2,542	ok...I'm not such a good one to give advice either since I really suck at picking up guys (and girls thank god! ) But Everyone has given good pieces of advice so far. I'd say go in looking for a shirt...and ask her for her help. Grab a couple of shirts, try each one on, asking her which one she thinks looks best on you. Tell her that you are trying to pick out the most perfect shirt becuase you are hoping to look your best for a first date with this girl that you are trying to get to know. She'll tell you which one looks best, and you say "Great! Thanks for all your help....oh by the way....you're the girl that I was hoping to go out on the date with. Would you give me the pleasure of your company?" I dunno if that would work on all girls, but if a cute guy came up to me and did that I'd be pretty flattered...it would show that he cares about what he looks like. This interaction also gives you the opportunity to get to know her a lil bit and to see if you would like going out with her. __________________ "Oh, I have a goal. And it's to have no goals at all." http://www.myspace.com/kenike

09-09-2003, 10:05 PM	#15
Wren57 Registered User Join Date: Feb 2002 Age: 39 Posts: 2,856	^heh, you just proved it's easier said than done... sucks for me, I went out w/ one girl for almost two years and now we are seperated at college... I gotta get used to the whole meeting new girls thing again, damn... __________________ yeah, its that big

09-08-2003, 11:07 PM	#2
juvenile Posts: n/a	you don't say "hey wanna go out" you say. hey when do you have break? want to grab a bite to eat or a coffee or something. something along those lines. no pressure. you're not forcing a relationship on her.

09-08-2003, 11:26 PM	#3
pdiggitydogg Yahoo Watashi wa kattaze! Join Date: May 2002 Location: Meanwhile, up in The D... Age: 40 Posts: 10,579	yeah yeah i was only using that as a humorus example

09-09-2003, 09:37 AM	#6
spoogenet Posts: n/a	Pick up pants, go into dressing room, walk right back out and ask her if she can help you get outta your drawers. I dunno man, best I'd say is probably to just try chatting with her a little in the store....if things go well, ask her if she'd like to chat more later over lunch or coffee or something. If things don't go well, you're just another shopper so no big deal. Then again....I'm about the worst person when it comes to meeting people/asking girls out, so maybe you don't want my advice. b

09-09-2003, 12:18 PM	#9
CivicSR Posts: n/a	Go into the store & sai Hi how are u could u helpe me with some thing i couldont help my self noticing u each time i come to this mall u seem to be a very nice girl have u been working here for long Then as ''La Loba Loca'' said give her nice-sweet-guy-next-door smile she will for shure smile has well so then u ask her would u like a drink after u finish work or when have a break make sure u keep on nice-sweet-guy-next-door smile if she says ill think about it u say OK then, could i have your fone number so i can call u when ur finish work, keep a pen and paper handy in your poket and show it to her when u ask her for the number, she will be impressed to see that u know what u want if she dosent have a number say can i call u wille ur working and take a american eagle buiseness card she will notice all your movements so keep looking strait @ her eyes wille u speak to her if none of that works forget her, ther are plenty more girls out there move on and try again & again till u get it right basicaly u just have to play the girls game,girls are all diferent they, already know what type of guy they look for, but they dont know what type of guy is going to come up to them, keep a clean mind and concentrate on the subject @ hand some girls start to stress out u make up a realy funy joke so they smile then just be direct they like that because ur maiking them gess things so they get exited and start imagining things like has if they were going out with u all ready i hope this helps u I havont got a girl friend but i know this works for me the last sumer iv been practicing this almost every were i see a nice girl most i just become friends some i end up going out Try it with your words u will see that its not to dificult

09-09-2003, 07:39 PM	#11
CivicSR Posts: n/a	It dosent mater if u look good if u got money if u are smart if u are shy if u are skiny\fat all u got to show to a girl to impress her is your personality and if u got that sorted then u got girls girls girls

09-09-2003, 07:40 PM	#12
pdiggitydogg Yahoo Watashi wa kattaze! Join Date: May 2002 Location: Meanwhile, up in The D... Age: 40 Posts: 10,579	^^oo hey now...thats pretty smooth indeed Dont know if I'll try that it though I didnt make it up to the mall today, and it wont happen tomorrow..maybe thurs or friday (it was friday that i saw her the last time so maybe thats the best chance) And Im not really worried about her saying no...not a massive loss...wouldnt be the first and wont be the last. TONS of new girls this yr at school and lots of cuties in all my classes...well not that health one...but the rest there are

09-09-2003, 09:48 PM	#13
Grip72 Registered User Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Calgary, AB Canada Age: 39 Posts: 2,962	oh man, i wish i had girls in my classes. I am the WORST person for introducing myself or meeting girls. Usually its just small talk like "this weather sort of sucks hey" blach blach blach...."you like school so far?" ...elevator talk mostly. It sucks, i'm so shy and have no self confidence. I think this sums it up: I can talk to girls that i think I am "better" than, (not in a mean way, but like girls that i think would consider me goodlooking) I CAN'T talk to girls that i think I am not good enough for. I haev a hard time talking to ridicously hot girls....it sucks. I just can't start a conversation....girls have to make the move for me...man i'm a wreck

09-09-2003, 10:01 PM	#14
pdiggitydogg Yahoo Watashi wa kattaze! Join Date: May 2002 Location: Meanwhile, up in The D... Age: 40 Posts: 10,579	dude im pretty much in that world...workin my way out. Its just a girl man...Ive finally learned that. Dont try and think too much about talkin...just do it. Say whatever...who cares?...well say whatever within reason...not "your boobs are huge!" or whatever. If they blow you off...to hell with em...that just means theyre bitches and you wouldnt want anything to do with them anyway. (look at me given advice on something I need help with...ironic)

09-09-2003, 10:12 PM	#16
Grip72 Registered User Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Calgary, AB Canada Age: 39 Posts: 2,962	ya, i've REALLY been out of the whole 'dating' and crush scene for a while. I just haven't seen/met any girls that i've really been intereseted in. But its WAY harder to tell your self "ok kyle, you can do this...just talk to her...if she's a *****....to hell with her..." but that is SO hard to do when you like a girl or think you would want to go out with a certain someone. Rejection is so hard on an already low self-confidence. It will make me feel even more less of myself...that's what i'm worried about

09-09-2003, 10:15 PM	#17
ebpda9 Repost Wagon Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: over here Age: 43 Posts: 17,266	AMEN to that __________________

09-09-2003, 10:16 PM	#18
DsBlu01CivEX Registered User Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: York Age: 43 Posts: 2,542	i can talk to just about any guy....but to ask one out- OH HELL NO! Can't do it. I can give advice to other people, but I can't follow my own advice. The guys I've had interest in, have NEVER known...ever. I hate rejection of any sort. So I just shelter myself from that by never letting anyone be able to do it to me. I don't like having my heart broken. __________________ "Oh, I have a goal. And it's to have no goals at all." http://www.myspace.com/kenike

09-09-2003, 10:44 PM	#19
pdiggitydogg Yahoo Watashi wa kattaze! Join Date: May 2002 Location: Meanwhile, up in The D... Age: 40 Posts: 10,579	no one likes to get shot-down...it doesnt feel good...its just one of those things that you need to either get used to or suffer from it for the rest of your life. So ya feel like shit now and then...that happens regardless anyways

09-10-2003, 10:56 AM	#21
pdiggitydogg Yahoo Watashi wa kattaze! Join Date: May 2002 Location: Meanwhile, up in The D... Age: 40 Posts: 10,579	well thursday is the next available chance...I'll let you know

09-11-2003, 06:44 PM	#23
pdiggitydogg Yahoo Watashi wa kattaze! Join Date: May 2002 Location: Meanwhile, up in The D... Age: 40 Posts: 10,579	back from the mall.....

09-12-2003, 08:16 AM	#26
BlackWolf La Loba Loca Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Nor Cal Posts: 1,016	^^^ Exactly! __________________ Does the noise in my head bother you??

09-12-2003, 09:28 AM	#27
pdiggitydogg Yahoo Watashi wa kattaze! Join Date: May 2002 Location: Meanwhile, up in The D... Age: 40 Posts: 10,579	eh im not that concerned about it. Its not like i had a crush on her or anything...after all I did just see her for the 1st time recently. And hey, there are tons of girls in my classes.

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