Shy boy.

Ok im 17 got out of a 2 1/2 year relationship last october and im now ready to move on! After being controled for almost 3 years! My question for you "experts" is Im 17 not ugly not godly attractive just your average sweet guy. I work in a grocery store many fine girls come through throwin smiles my way. What do i do? Are they bein nice or are they wantin me to talk to them? Also whats a good line to approach a girl with? How can you tell if a girl is genually interested? I ask because all my past grlfriends have been set up by friends! well hope yall can help!

tt52~aka one confused mofo

[mylittlecivic]

I myself am Very shy, and whenever i want to talk to a guy I chicken out i think you should defintely try to talk to some, maybe just start by saying hello!

[Racing Rice]

The best thing you can do is just be yourself and not try anything.. You can usually tell when a girl is into you. Start with small talk, the best thing to do is just try to get to a friend status first then work from there, sometimes this can backfire on you alittle and youll get the "You are to good of a friend I dont want to lose you" speech, so be it, atleast you have a good friend you can talk to and enjoy her company.

I agree with RR-

Just talk, be nice, become friends- and let things take off from there.

[Whiteclipse99]

I agree with Racing Rice, the best thing is to just be yourself. Girls don't like when guys fire cheesy pickup lines at them. At least I don't. "Hi my name is...., what's yours?" works for me. Or start out with something funny that will make her laugh. I like guys with a sense of humor! As for girls "throwin smiles your way"....I know from my point of view that I definitely give a guy a smile when I think he's cute or I wouldn't mind talking to him along with some serious eye contact. Because I'm shy, that's my way of initiating something.

[DsBlu01CivEX]

Totally be yourself...AND DON'T USE PICK UP LINES!!! I once read that the only acceptable pick up line is "Hi My name is TightTeg(of course you fill in your "real name" here). What's yours?" And I think 99.9% of the females would agree with that statement. And Whiteeclipse is right...normally if a girl is throwin smiles towards a guy that typically means "hey you're an attractive guy...I wish I had the balls to go over and talk to you but I don't so, come to me...PLEASE" or it could me "I'm just bein nice...but I can't believe you can't feel that huge nasty booger hangin out of your nose and I can't wait to get out in the parking lot and laugh my a$$ off" But don't fret...it's normally the first one. So if a girl you think is hot or would be interested in knowing throws a smile your way grow some balls and say hi back. Or at least smile back. Be confident. If you aren't totally repulsive and a girl takes the time to smile at you because she noticed you...jump on that man!!! Just remember don't use pick up lines and respond back to her the way you would want to be treated if the rolls were reversed.

I know pickup lines are a bad thing. well i guess ill grow some balls! I guess I'll try that one! Also ladies how do you feel if you go into a guys work place and he trys to talk to you (in a appropriate manner of course)?

[Whiteclipse99]

Depending on where you work, I would talk to you only if I knew I wasn't going to get you in trouble with your boss or keep you from doing your job. Certain work environments don't make it easy to have a convo with someone. (unless your taking a break of course) If I was actually forward enough to go to the guys work that I liked, I would offer to give him my # and have him call me when he gets off work. But I'm too shy, so the guy usually has to do all the work.

Be aggressive.. B-E Aggressive!!

Ok I work at a grocery store so im supposed to talk to people. a few of the other guys talk while checkin someone out(register) or help them to there cars. So would the general census of girls here say that would be a acceptable place?

Yeah.. just swallow whatever fear you have thats keeping you from talking and just TALK! Be yourself & smile She won't be able to resist

[ebpda9]

hey i lost my phone number. can i have yours ?

Originally posted by hondaman-iac
hey i lost my phone number. can i have yours ?

Oh god now i have guys hiting on me!!! STAY AWAY IM HOMOPHOBIC!! not really but dont hit on my hondaman its just not kool!

and now im and will start

[2000Pimpinex]

Eventhough I am a fellow shy, nice guy-I have to say let the balls drop and just tell them how you feel. Just watch out, people play games and that really pisses me off.

argh i hate that word FRIENDSHIP! so many girls have thrown that word at me thats one reason im so friggin shy!

Then start talking to her and just see where it goes, more than likely she's not gonna throw you down on the counter and get on top of you.. so it is gonna start somewhat more like you guys are friends but that could be a quyick phase. Just see where it takes you, if you like it stay for the ride, if not get off!

Originally posted by FeelMyRide
Then start talking to her and just see where it goes, more than likely she's not gonna throw you down on the counter and get on top of you.. so it is gonna start somewhat more like you guys are friends but that could be a quyick phase. Just see where it takes you, if you like it stay for the ride, if not get off!

alright ill give it a try then! i go back to work tomorrow well see how it goes!!

ya i wanna know how it's going

i'm a pretty shy person but when i really like someone i'm pretty forward and blunt. when i met my bf i pretty much initiated everything and went after what i wanted. i gave him my number, i asked him out and he couldn't resist no, just playin but it seriously did work. just think to yourself, what's the worst than can happen. i've had it go the wrong way where the guy pretty much tells me "you're not my type, let's just be friends" and although it sucks, oh well, at least you know you tried, and you don't have to be wondering "what if..." just go for it!!

Originally posted by hondaman-iac
hey i lost my phone number. can i have yours ?

nice shoes wanna f**k LOL!!!


do not whatver u do.. use pick up lines.. it makes girls wanna just tell u straight out that your lame. And that would not boost your confidence at all.. WE'RE lookin for a boost in confidence here folks. So my suggestion to you. is to go out.. with your friends. Meet new girls.. Bring a friend who is LOUD and not shy like yourself.. this way it will attract more female company your way.. talk with them get to know them.. and see where u end up.. ur princess is out there somewhere be patient you will find her

I met some girl last night at a party I attended. Talked to her for 11 hours, after I went home (way after she went home) I couldnt remember her name or what I did with her number. Oh well, thats what I get for doing that type of shit (I wasnt drinking).

[ebpda9]

Originally posted by vtechnicality

a friend who is LOUD and not shy like yourself.. this way it will attract more female company your way..

he is pretty loud when he whores the forums J/K

[Wren57]

Haha toykilla I know EXACTLY what you mean... I have the worst time remembering girls names... I meet them everywhere but as soon as they say their name it goes in one ear and out the other... It really doesn't matter to me though, because I am no longer in the "hunt" as I have been going out with my GREAT girlfriend for about 7 months now (Im almost 17)... NO pickup lines... if you go somewhere with a loud friend and he makes stupid comments say small witty sarcastic remarks about his comments- make sure to keep them little though- dont want to seem harsh... and please please please try to remember their names

[DsBlu01CivEX]

yah the remembering the names is VERY important. Wanna know how my ex got me? He asked for my phone number after meeting me at a club one night...nothing to write with or write on and he remembered my phone number. I saw him at another club the following night and he made sure he remembered by repeating it to me...and then asked me when I didnt work during the week. I told him Wed. Now 4 days would have gone by until he called me. And he did and actually remembered my # the whole time. Too bad he's an a$$ now who is totally confusing the hell out of me. But he sure did impress me at the beginning.

wow, remember the #. I was soo hammered that night that I dont remember how I got home, let alone some girls name and number. No dents though, so I drive DAMN well when im wasted.

[Whiteclipse99]

Would you guys say that you like when I girl makes the first move? Of course I'm too shy, so I usually don't, but I wish I just could.

[ebpda9]

yeah i'm shy too so i know what you mean. i really don't talk that much (whoring on HS is something different). All my past gf they made the first move, and the only time i made the first move i ended up in disaster.

quick question, Do you have any female friends? if so they can maybe give you the heads up on if a girl is interested or not, I think you should hang out with girls a little you will learn alot on what they like and dislike, it will benefit you in the long run.

[ebpda9]

Originally posted by girzgotcarzz
quick question, Do you have any female friends? if so they can maybe give you the heads up on if a girl is interested or not, I think you should hang out with girls a little you will learn alot on what they like and dislike, it will benefit you in the long run.

ummmmmmmmmmmm no. not really.

[Racing Rice]

Originally posted by Whiteclipse99
Would you guys say that you like when I girl makes the first move? Of course I'm too shy, so I usually don't, but I wish I just could.

Its not as stressful to the guy when the girl makes the first move... All he has to do is accept or decline.. A guy would have to be crazy if he doesnt like the girl to make the first move.

That's one thing I wish I could do...make the first move. Being really shy around guys I like really sucks!

being shy is nothing.. just overcome your fear of rejection.. its like climbing the ropes in gym class.... think about it.. u could be impotent..what would u rather?


Got erection?

Originally posted by vtechnicality
being shy is nothing.. just overcome your fear of rejection.. its like climbing the ropes in gym class.... think about it.. u could be impotent..what would u rather?


Got erection?

So....ummmmm..........uhhhh.....how do you approach a girl when you don't got erection?

Hey baby, how about I feed you strawberies and whipped cream while you feed me some viagra? :o



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Originally posted by mt.biker
lol dude good one

i remember my ex got kinda disappointed when i wasn't honry around her... dunno why maybe you women could explain this.

Prolly cuz it's atypical. Usually the girls gotta shake their legs vigorously to keep us from humping them like unsnipped dogs.

Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

Or maybe it's that dern 300 lb. girlfriend again that was slowin your ride?

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[DsBlu01CivEX]

Originally posted by girzgotcarzz
quick question, Do you have any female friends? if so they can maybe give you the heads up on if a girl is interested or not, I think you should hang out with girls a little you will learn alot on what they like and dislike, it will benefit you in the long run.

She is right. Get girl friends that aren't afraid to talk about what they want in guys in front of you. Erin and I will talk about hot guys in front of them, what we like in guys, what turns us on and what not all in front of them. Normally they ask questions too. But it's a give and take relationship. We clue them in on what girls are lookin for or explain their actions...and they clue us in on the guy species. I know so much more about guys now....it's amazing. It's like I was handed the secret book and taught the secret hand shake!!!! hahaha

Originally posted by girzgotcarzz
quick question, Do you have any female friends? if so they can maybe give you the heads up on if a girl is interested or not, I think you should hang out with girls a little you will learn alot on what they like and dislike, it will benefit you in the long run.

Hanging out with girls is always fun. If they arent interested, they might have a HOT friend that wants a piece. Remember, sex discriminates against the fat and ugly.