Need Advice/Comments.

[Rob]

Originally posted by GT40FIED
I dunno...maybe it's just me...but something doesn't seem right about that. It's almost like they seem to be rushing you to get this taken care of. Again, it could just be me, but that doesn't seem to add up.

And you're probably right....pretty much what it is is that my ex-wife cheated on me with this guy (that's why she is "ex")...rushed me to get the divorce finalized so that she could be with him. We got divorced March '01. My daughter was 2. She had been with this guy since May '00 (at the time my daughter was 5 months). I went to Korea from Nov. '01 - Nov. '02. When I was close to coming back I called my ex from Korea to set up a 2 week period when I could pick up my daughter and spend some time with her to which her reply was "You know...we are a happy family now and I really don't want you interrupting that". Fucked up, yes....but that's what I have had to deal with. And from day 1 that this guy has been around, my ex has done nothing to stop her from thinking he is her father. She does not talk to her about me, didn't show her pics of me when I was gone for a year and to this day, she knows HIM as "daddy". So, either way, I got the fucked up end of the deal. Now, are they rushing this along, yes...but I had a conversation with my ex when I agreed to do this she told me that my daughter will still be apart of my life and vice versa..I will always be her father and nothing will change that which in itself sounds sincere...but if I take what my ex says for face value based on previous dealings with her, I could wipe my ass with it and end up with hand full of shit........

Originally posted by VR4_Craver
It would probably be better to be known as "good friend" than "the dick that couldnt handle his responsibility"

That is the most fucked of thing anyone could have said to me at this point...like I don't feel like a piece of shit as it is...I'm not a dick that couldn't handle responsibility as you have so bluntly and assholishly stated.....I'm just doing what I think is best for her. If I'm fucking up by doing this, then I'll deal with the consequences later.......