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oh IF and WHEN i ever get married...it'll be once. If it happens to end in divorce, then I'm not doin it again. I have no desire to keep goin through that to see if I found my "one". I really think that some people do actually just settle with the first person that comes along cuz they grew up thinking "I'm never going to get married. I'm never going to find someone that loves me." blah blah blah....and then they don't want to put forth the effort to make a good husband/wife....and they still end up hating each other. I was never able to understand why being married was so important (no offense Mt. Biker). All it is basically is a piece of paper and some jewlery. Does saying you're married make you feel any differently about your spouse? (maybe one of our married or previously married-Rob or Racing Rice-could help me out on this one). In PA, i'm not sure about other states, if you live with a man/woman for 7 yrs or more in one household, by law the 2 of you are married (common law marriage). Maybe it's because I've never really had a serious/intimate relationship that I don't understand the point of marriage...I dunno. But I still have no problem remaining single the rest of my life. I don't doubt that I could go out now if i wanted to and find a guy that I could marry and live with the rest of my life....but would I be happy with him....I dunno. Would I somewhat resent him and feel like I cheated myself...probably. You never know what is going to happen...I don't understand why people rush it.


I keep thinking of the movies Serendipity and Cast Away....