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Originally Posted by Robert
I think you and your wife need to get on the same page, get your priorities straight. When you married her you commited to working things out.
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Working things out, compromising, and supporting each other.
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Being angry with her over her wanting you to be around is a little different, maybe even childish. You should figure out whats important in your life and then do that.
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I'm not mad at her for wanting to spend time with me. Its the fact that she doesn't even want to think about me doing anything that will take time away from her. She wasn't even willing to try this out.
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If your wife ends up not being that important consider where your relationship would be if you did everything you wanted. Then consider if she wasn't willing to wait around for you.
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If I did everything I wanted, I'd be im the military and who knows where. Its not that she's not important. I love her a lot. Its the fact that she isn't willing to try anything different. She's afraid of change. The same reason she's been at her job for the past 6 years or so. I've tried for the past year or so to try & get her to look at a different job or start her own business. I'm willing to help her the whole way. She just won't make an effort to do any of that. She says she wants a different job, but yet she fails to do anything about it.
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Sounds to me like you two need to do some serious talking and figure out what you both want in life and where you are willing to comprosmise.
I personally did this before I got married; though its never to late.
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Yeah we will be doing some talking. I know what I want out of life. I'd like her to be a apart of everything too. I just can't sit back and let her stop me from progressing in my career. Especially when it ultimately helps us out. This would free up some money for a house which is a huge goal of ours. It would also help us pay down some of our bills.
Its going to be tough tonight. We've been together for 9 years. Married for one of those and living together for one of those. Even after all that time, getting married changes things.