[BlackWolf]

Why do I get the feeling she must have been watching the Friends episode when Rachel finally told Ross?? Dude, that may have been the most selfish thing I have ever heard of. She knew you were in a serious relationship and still felt the need to tell you? That's just wrong in my book. It's not about telling someone your feelings like that given your situation. She should be glad that you are with someone that obviously makes you happy. For her to tell you that smells like she either wanted you to feel sorry for her and give her sympathy sex or that she was set up to test your integrity of your relationship. In my past I had very strong feelings for this guy that was one of my best friends that I knew that I could never act on those feelings because he was with a woman that made him VERY happy. Now years later, married, two kids and a mortgage, he is the happiest I have ever seen him. Just knowing this is enough for me. I would NEVER tell him how I feel/felt just to try to break up this happy couple. Yeah I was upset, yeah I cried in my beer but I learned that HIS happiness was MY happiness. I would treat her with kid gloves from now on and keep my distance. I also feel that by telling you she did risk your friendship and it did ruin it. Things will NEVER be the same between you two again. Please don't even consider what happened your fault or something you did. She's an adult and life's a learning experience, she's responsible for her own actions. Whatever you do, don't tell your girlfriend this. Somethings are better left unsaid. Mad props to you for standing up and telling her no. Peace.