[nonovurbizniz]

I'd stick it out... I know I'm chiming in late and all... but I would not sign those papers regardless...

ONLY if there were adendums in there that SPECIFICALLY noted that you HAD to have open access to visitation and that the truth would be known by all.

Just try to spend as much time with your daughter as possible... the bond will grow...

Backing off is not the best idea imo... even if it's only because you think it's the best thing for her...

My dad did NOTHING but support our family... and it left him as a resented outsider... I know LOTS of people who's dad can't get the bills paid but supports them in more important ways...

I'm not trying to say ANYTHING negative about you or your situation at all.. I'm not far off from the same deal...

But staying envolved and actively fighting for a presence in your daughters life is ALL that will matter to her...

If the adoption can go through and you are GUARANTEED in WRITING that your role will still be present and your opinion will still be considered then it's fine...

But with the whole wife cheating and leaving for this guy... regardless of how cool you are with him... that could simply be a strategy... you don't know if ALL of these ideas aren't his exclusively and he's just looking for a way to remove you from all of their lives...

AND NEVER EVER EVER trust pre-written documents by someone else's lawyer... even if it's EVERY DIME YOU HAVE... pay a lawyer to look over the adoption papers and make sure you're not going to get screwed.

Over all just make sure your daughter KNOWS you are there for her NO MATTER WHAT and that you will love her NO MATTER WHAT.

That's all that will really matter in the end...

Good luck and I'm sorry to hear you're going through such a shitty time...

Hope it works out for the best for all...