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Originally posted by Kool-Aid
I don't know why I haven't had a guy to hook me up...maybe they just aren't the right ones to do so...since I think I am one of those "difficult" one's to figure out.
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It's a very complicated yet simple issue, really. There is no one recipe. My personal belief is that a lot of women aren't comfortable enough with the situation at the time, and that can't be underestimated. However to simply say it's the girl's fault, or the guy's fault, isn't fair. To say it's 50/50 isn't fair either. The situation is far more complex than a matter of applying blame.
First off, only something like 25% of women are supposed to be able to climax vaginally. The other 75% only tend to climax clitorally.....considering that most positions don't adequately stimulate the clitoris for that 75% of women, it's not that much of a surprise when women don't climax during intercourse. Of course the first method to truly understanding your own ability to climax is self-stimulation, experimentation with a partner can be a good educational tool.
Either way, you've gotta be comfortable in a situation. The willingness of both parties to really try is a good start, but it does require the comfort factor. I dunno, it all seems so simple sometimes but is so complex. As I mentioned in another thread, I've been the same guy all along but for 1 woman things have been very different than any of the others. The difference? Our feelings for one another.....it makes a world of difference. The more she's into me and what I'm doing, and the better she's feeling, the better I'm feeling and the more I'm into her......it's like our pleasure is complementary and just keeps building exponentially. Unfortunately, though, our pain suffers the same fate.....
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