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I understand what GT40FIED is saying here but I've got to throw in the support for Adrieanne here.
The problem is that any individual is raised withing a given social construct and it is not deemed acceptable to wander outside of its boundaries. If a girl is raised in a situation where it is deemed inappropriate to approach guys, it is very hard to overcome that. What an individual knows to be appropriate or inappropriate is a product of personal experience in social situations and upbringing. To say a girl is copping out because she thinks it's tacky to approach a guy isn't fair. If you feel tacky doing something, then for all intents and purposes you are tacky doing it. Consider the idea that we are no more than we think we are. And what we think we are is very difficult to overcome due to its roots. Copping out is simply taking the easy route, however overcoming years of programming, learning, or experience is certainly not a cop out.
The fact of the matter is that each of us perceives a social situation our own unique way. It is part of both the joy and frustraction of interacting with others.
To think it's not right to do something just because that's how it has been done for years is definitely a cop out, however to feel awkward and thus avoid doing it is different. There's a difference between acting based upon morals/rules than feelings/perceptions.
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