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03-16-2004, 02:33 PM

You guys have hit on a variety of topics and honestly the “differences” start with how we as a society deal with kids based on gender. That is where the cycle started and its funny cause we tend to out right treat boys differently than we do girls and that opens a host of issues later on. As a parent, I have a unique view in the sense of having the opportunity to have raised both boys and girls--- For me it’s a simple matter they all do the same things; play with the same types of toys, same sports and heck… I tend to be more strict with the boy because he is the oldest and has to be the example for his younger sisters. But with that being said, my girls are going to get twice as much flack because they are to be expected to be twice as strong and self reliant/ independent. I do not mean to the point where they do not need men in their lives—no. I mean that they will not be dependant or co-dependant on any man. I want them to build their own selves up and have their men compliment them in their lives as pure equals. That is not saying that they don’t expect chivalry to exist (i.e. opening of doors, standing when they enter a room/environment) There are basic courtesies that women deserve and are deserving of. But with that, there must be a manner in which the woman carries herself to show herself worthy and appreciative of said treatment and gestures. Bridging the gaps between the sexes is simple; I think it boils down to chemistry between men and women with some basic respects for both along the way. You would have to start with some basic form of mutual respect to establish some level for your relationship and you build from there. Example, a pure business relationship—you would respect the person (or not) for his/her talents, knowledge and the way they handle themselves. In a personal relationship the same is true but there is chemistry between the parties that is the catalyst for bringing them together and things blossom from there. The basics shift to listening, conversation, feelings, caring and ect,… it boils down to two people – any two people—listening to one another asking questions, exploring the why and what ifs --- defining positions on issues and respecting differences as well as the similarities and being willing to lay it on the line in debate free of ridicule or repercussions.

03-16-2004, 02:33 PM	#18
FST_BlkCivic Posts: n/a	You guys have hit on a variety of topics and honestly the “differences” start with how we as a society deal with kids based on gender. That is where the cycle started and its funny cause we tend to out right treat boys differently than we do girls and that opens a host of issues later on. As a parent, I have a unique view in the sense of having the opportunity to have raised both boys and girls--- For me it’s a simple matter they all do the same things; play with the same types of toys, same sports and heck… I tend to be more strict with the boy because he is the oldest and has to be the example for his younger sisters. But with that being said, my girls are going to get twice as much flack because they are to be expected to be twice as strong and self reliant/ independent. I do not mean to the point where they do not need men in their lives—no. I mean that they will not be dependant or co-dependant on any man. I want them to build their own selves up and have their men compliment them in their lives as pure equals. That is not saying that they don’t expect chivalry to exist (i.e. opening of doors, standing when they enter a room/environment) There are basic courtesies that women deserve and are deserving of. But with that, there must be a manner in which the woman carries herself to show herself worthy and appreciative of said treatment and gestures. Bridging the gaps between the sexes is simple; I think it boils down to chemistry between men and women with some basic respects for both along the way. You would have to start with some basic form of mutual respect to establish some level for your relationship and you build from there. Example, a pure business relationship—you would respect the person (or not) for his/her talents, knowledge and the way they handle themselves. In a personal relationship the same is true but there is chemistry between the parties that is the catalyst for bringing them together and things blossom from there. The basics shift to listening, conversation, feelings, caring and ect,… it boils down to two people – any two people—listening to one another asking questions, exploring the why and what ifs --- defining positions on issues and respecting differences as well as the similarities and being willing to lay it on the line in debate free of ridicule or repercussions.