Strangely enough, I find that my tattoo is a conversation starter.
LOL! Guys will say "Hey, I like your tat. Where'd you get it?" It's not like they're really interested in where you got it but in starting a conversation with you. I also find that it helps to eliminate guys I really don't want to talk too, like mama's boys. Something I really don't find attractive. When I'm at the club wearing my "standard issue" black club clothes with my arm showing, apparently I can indimidate guys just by standing there, think biker chick. When I wear long sleeved shirts, I've noticed that guys don't approach me as easily before (when I wore short sleeved shirts.) So yeah, I can see where just physical appearance can be something that makes you approachable or not. DsBlu, could it be that you're shy? I'm shy, well not as much as I used to be but it's something I've been working on over the years. I was told the same thing. I usually kept to myself in a crowd and was told that I was stuck up too. "WHAT? You don't even know me and you're gonna say that?" Needless to say, I've developed a whatever additude too. I don't go looking for anyone in peticular when I go out and maybe that's why guys approach me, trying to GET my attention. I'm not saying act like you don't care, just that you're there to have fun and it takes the edge off for them making you more approachable. For me, it could just be the fact I don't wear a bra when I go out either.