[DsBlu01CivEX]

Oddly enough all the girls that have posted in this thread (including me) are all telling you to at bare minimum be a sholder for the girl to cry on. It's hard being a friend with someone that you see getting abused in any form. And it's even more frustrating that your friend doesn't realize it. Just stick with her. You can't control how things are going to end up....so don't go into it with unattainable expecations. If you decide to have a "sit down" with the girl and tell her that you feel that she's in an emotionally abusive relationship and that she deserves to be with someone that will treat her the way she should be treated...I'd try to avoid telling her how you feel about her if I were you. I think that would be too much for the girl to take in.

I guess you just have to decide whether it's worth your time to invest in trying to help this girl get out of the abusive relationship knowing that you might not get the girl in the end. And if you don't get the girl in the end and she's not with the old bf...just be happy for her that you got her out of that situation....cuz if you wouldn't have helped, it could have gotten alot worse...know what I'm sayin? And another question for ya....say you do help the girl get out of the relationship and you don't get her in the end...would you really want to be someone that doesn't realize the catch that you are? Have more self confidence in yourself that you can get any girl you want. ( i know easier said than done....but it helps)