Erin I dont think you should be complaining about putting yourself out there. Consider for a moment that you read the situation wrong or reacted incorrectly. I'd have to say that if you're not used to asking for a guys number but you decided to ask him, that you could have possibly come on too strong.
I highly doubt you did though and so this leads me to another thought. I know personally if i girl asks for my number my guard goes up. I've always had bad experiences with girls who make the first contact, and i'm pretty sure i'm not alone on this one. Maybe he too has had troubles with girls that make the first move, you never know whats going on in his head.
Lastly (sorry this is winded) I wouldn't ever date a girl I meet at a club either. If i was a bouncer or not, it just wouldn't happen. I wouldn't mind dating/seeing a girl that enjoyed going to clubs but meeting her there would be a problem for me. You rarely get to meet the "real" girl that night and it just seems to bring out the fakeness in people. Considering I feel this way after only visiting a few clubs, maybe as a bouncer he has deeper insight into the "types" that like to club. Rightly or wrongly he has labeled you as one of those "types" and from the sounds of it didn't make any move, because if he did he would have asked for your number. Just like guys can miss read a girl who is simply being nice and smiling, i believe a girl can miss read the situation as well.
Dont let this stop you from looking for the right guy, just maybe clubs and bars shouldn't be the only place you look.
Rob
