[nonovurbizniz]

I give this advice warely... If you discontinue your relations ship you'll probobly regret it because it seems so real now and the future seems like it'll all work out... however in reality this probobly isn't the case... Mixed marrages are hard enough without pressure from one of the families... just the cultural differences are enough to SEVERELY impact a relationship... things you see as clear may seem barbaric to her and vice versus.

If her family are hardcore muslims... you risk ruining her life. period.. noone wants to be seperated from their parents forever... sure it happens and people live through it but it's not fun by any stretch...Plus what if (I know it doesn't seem possible) one of or both of you change (it does happen) and you don't find yourselves happy together... she's left with no family and no you... that's not really fair. If they're hardcore muslim she's ruined FOREVER once an american has defowled her.

I would definetly meet the parents... you'd be amazed how reasonable people are CAPABLE of being. However if you're amazed at how UNaccepting they are you really need to think of her life as a whole...

WE'RE TALKING ABOUT MORE THE 4-5 TIMES THE AMOUNT OF YEARS YOU'VE BEEN ALIVE SO FAR.

that's a LONG LONG LONG time and people and feelings DO NOT last as long as they seem they will.

If SHE geniunely wants to live a different life than the one her parents are prepared let her live then you may as well go for it because she'll be happier in the long run...

remember though... with time comes change... and no matter how strong you feel about something right now it could pull a 180 tomorrow much less 60 years down the road.

Tread lightly.