I read about half of your replies.

Saying that love doens't take much effort is just plain dumb. I think most people get convinced they're in love when some guy/girl sweeps them off their feet. :no: Sorry, that's NOT love.

When you love someone, you put their interests BEFORE yours when making a decision. If you're lucky, they will do the same for you. Anybody who says that putting their partner's interests before their own takes little or no effort is a liar.

see i agree that putting your interestes ahead of others is important but i dont believe it requires more effort.

It requires effort for me. My gf and I have a long distance relationship, and saying "yeah go out tonight have a good time at the club" is hard for me, but i know i have to do it. It would be easy for me to say "no i don't want you going out, your staying in tonight". Shit like that

ya but if you said that you would be controlling....