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Hondaman, you should never love another person more than you love yourself. If you don't love yourself, then it makes it hard to love other people. I learned that from my X. Like we've all said, don't NOT do something because you're scared. You don't want to wake up one day and wonder what if? You said that she was acting as though there was some feeling there, right? Did she do that that first time all of this came about?
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maybe its just me but its possible to love someone more then yourself.. its the same level of love that pushes a parent to die for their child. |
Ok, I do agree with that but that's different. But in the same respect as much as it scares me to say it, I would save my parents over myself. They gave me life. That doesn't necessarily mean that I love them more than myself. Scary subject.
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i'm afraid i don't get your question. she started acting warmer few weeks before going to college, then during the first week of classes she was quite cold. |
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The first time that you decided to talk about your feelings with her was she being warm to you? Or, is that something that just started hapenning recently? |
she was a bit warm, but not qute like she is now, and i went ahead with my gut
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Hmmmmmm. Tough call. Here's an idea. Instead of sitting her down and telling her all that you feel, why don't you ask her what motivates HER to act so warm to you and then so cold the next minute and see what she has to say about that. See what she does while answering that one.
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i asked her once why she was so cold, and she kind of avoided the question.
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Well, I don't like that and if I were you I would NOT put up with that. That's crap. There's a reason behind everything and if you treat someone a certain way, I feel that they deserve to know why. |
well when i asked that it was late at night and she was a bit tired, so that's why she must have avoided the question
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Come on, STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR HER! She was tired? Was she just not talking at all? Did she have a sore throat? Was she thirsty? Sorry :) I just don't think that's acceptable. Don't be an enabler! Get on that! I'm serious. You should have asked her the next day. I really hope you know that I'm not yelling at you :) Just at the situation. Rather than you sharing your feelings this time, really REALLY try and get her to share hers. And if you think asking her late at night will have some bearing over if you can get a straight answer out of her, ask her in the day. :yes: |
good point.
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Stand you ground. Just looking out for you. Girls are ignorant. Don't get trapped in the game, K? ;)
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AMEN TO EVERYTHING YOU"VE JUST SAID! in this post and above.. go get her hondaman-iac, pin her down and get out of her everything that you wanted to hear! |
One rule in life is....you're never truely able to love another person until you love yourself. And as for the whole parents dying for their childern and vice versa it's a love and a respect thing. It's what you do for family....the love is there instantly from the time the child is born. I don't think that you can love another person more than yourself, but you can only love them as much as you love yourself.
But yes...I agree with Missy...find out exactly how she feels and why she's bein playin the hot/cold game with you. Don't pester her...let her know that you've felt confused lately with her actions and that you really need to know what she thinks and how she feels and that you'll wait for her answer, but that It's really important that she answer you questions. |
Yeah, definitely don't pester her. Don't seem like you care that much either. Address it with more of a curiosity perspective. If you're really scared that what hapenned last time is going to happen this time at least you won't putting putting that much of yourself out there. Your interest in her feeling is genuine but I would just be more careful about how I go about showing interest. I know I'm all anti-games and stuff but if I had been down that road once before, I would just take a different route.
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