what does it take...

[mt.biker]

What do you think it takes to truly love someone?

[ebpda9]

i think it takes someone ;)

[Accordchick]

it takes nothing...it sort of just is there...:radar:

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by hondaman-iac
i think it takes someone ;)

dude your a goof!:crazy:

[cutiepy701]

WOW thats a pretty broad question, it takes many things. I don't think you can put into words what it takes. Its probably different with each person. Its something you feel and think with every inch of your body you feel it. Cannot explain it bro......you just feel it.

[DsBlu01CivEX]

Originally posted by cutiepy701
......you just feel it.


:yes: :yes: :yes: I agree...I don't think that it can really be explained. It's just one of those things that just sorta happens.

[V8killimports]

Originally posted by DsBlu01CivEX
:yes: :yes: :yes: I agree...I don't think that it can really be explained. It's just one of those things that just sorta happens.
and big titties.

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by V8killimports
and big titties.

lmao yes.. big titties

[Rob]

Originally posted by V8killimports
and big titties.
LMAO!

I really don't believe in "love"...I believe you wanting to be with someone because everything about them..mind, body, and soul appeals to you..."love" is just a 4 letter word.....just my $0.02....

[Jeebs]

"what makes a man, is it the woman in his hands..just cause she has big titties?...or is it the way he fights everyday?...no..its probly the titties"

[mt.biker]

jeebs what movie is that from?

[Rob]

Originally posted by Jeebs
"what makes a man, is it the woman in his hands..just cause she has big titties?...or is it the way he fights everyday?...no..its probly the titties"
huh? :crazy:

[GirlRacer]

Originally posted by mt.biker
lmao yes.. big titties

O my... I'm offended.... :paranoid: haha
I think it takes, common interests...of course looks must come into play somewhere, ability to get along, ability to get along SO well that during the day... you think of something they said, or did & this huge smile just comes across your face. *wink*wink* ;) ;)

[nonovurbizniz]

No I'm pretty sure it's the titties:yes:

[V8killimports]

Originally posted by nonovurbizniz
No I'm pretty sure it's the titties:yes:

Yes big titties.. saving up for the wifes D cup.. can't wait to play with them.

[GirlRacer]

:no: U guys are awful.

[Kyle]

Originally posted by V8killimports
Yes big titties.. saving up for the wifes D cup.. can't wait to play with them.
LMAO!!

[mt.biker]

Alright we've all had our laughs now lets get back on topic....

[ebpda9]

tities ;)

[GirlRacer]

:crazy: Mmmkay... calling all passed the 2nd grade... anyone OVER 2nd grade? ;) :yes:

[ebpda9]

not me;)

[Rob]

Originally posted by GirlRacer
:crazy: Mmmkay... calling all passed the 2nd grade... anyone OVER 2nd grade? ;) :yes:
:wave:

[Daviso27]

To truly love someone, you must feel pain and jealousy.

You must feel pain when you are apart...You don't feel complete without that person. You must be able to feel your loveone's pain, as well as other feelings.

Jealousy is the most important factor in love. Its not a question of self confidence or trust...Love makes you feel jealous...Without jealousy...there is no love.

If your loved one is not a jealous person...she/he does not love you...either they know your cheating, or they are cheating on you...Of course this is my opinion.

[V8killimports]

Originally posted by GirlRacer
:crazy: Mmmkay... calling all passed the 2nd grade... anyone OVER 2nd grade? ;) :yes:

almost... I'll let ya know.

[Racing Rice]

Sheesh guys.. Way to hose a thread.:banghead:

Im going to have to say you just know.

Its the person that gives you butterflies in your stomach everytime you see him/her even after the frist time you meet. Its the person that when they arent around you feel like your missing a part of you. Its the person that gets on your nerves, buts it still kinda cute.

How do you know someone is the right one for you? You dont really, but if real love is there for the both of you.. It will workout.:banana:

[mt.biker]

now thats another good reply.. way to go RR

[incubus86]

takes a lot of effort, time and patience.

[GirlRacer]

:no: I don't think it takes effort to really love someone. It's the most effortless thing ever. It just happens sometimes. Even when you don't want it to...and you try to not let it take over. It's hard to fight off.

[mt.biker]

Now lets see how far off base i am

I think sometimes you just connect with someone, maybe not in a major way but you do. then you start to get to know the person and you start to find you like the cute imprefections (heaven forbid a woman is not prefect) thats when i think you start lovin someone. As for what it takes, i think it takes honesty, respect and communication.

how hard was that?

[Rob]

Originally posted by GirlRacer
:no: I don't think it takes effort to really love someone. It's the most effortless thing ever. It just happens sometimes. Even when you don't want it to...and you try to not let it take over. It's hard to fight off.
sorry Quin but....:bs:

if you're view is true, then why is there so much cheating and divorce going on??????

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by AccordinStyle
sorry Quin but....:bs:

if you're view is true, then why is there so much cheating and divorce going on??????

now thats easy, people rush into relationships and generally dont take their vowes to mean much

[GirlRacer]

Originally posted by AccordinStyle
sorry Quin but....:bs:

if you're view is true, then why is there so much cheating and divorce going on??????

Ok, ok...I KNOW there's some assholes out there, but some of us aren't!

As for what Mt. Biker was saying...you definitely know you're tumbling head over heels if you start loving imperfections, or little funny things a person does... :yes: ;)

Good call Rob.

[Rob]

Originally posted by mt.biker
now thats easy, people rush into relationships and generally dont take their vowes to mean much
that and there isn't any such thing as morals anymore....:rolleyes:
Originally posted by GirlRacer
Ok, ok...I KNOW there's some assholes out there, but some of us aren't!
I know but it just seems like there are more "ares" then "aren'ts"....

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by AccordinStyle
that and there isn't any such thing as morals anymore....:rolleyes:

I know but it just seems like there are more "ares" then "aren'ts"....

Even makin eye contact has become a problem, some girls do anything to avoid it. The morals thing is an even bigger issue. I dont think people value a marriage or if they do its to easy to get out of one and people just run instead of staying and fighting.

You should know this there are two types of people in this world when it comes to conflict and they either take flight or fight. Most people today leave a situtation that becomes difficult. There aren't to many people that stay and try to work things out. Being a person not afriad of conflict i stick around and try to fix things up, but the other person might be someone who can't stand conflict and it never works out. It seems women are atracted to the guys who are dominate but then at the hint of trouble they are the first people to leave to their mothers house. Its really rare that you find a girl who is willing to respectfully stand up to a problem.

Now thats just one problem that we see today, there are so many others. But i dont want this to become into a woman bashing thread because i really like chicks and i dont want to generalize beyond reality.

[DsBlu01CivEX]

I still think it's something different for everyone. I think for some people it is effortless to fall in love with someone and stick with them through all the hard times. Then I think there are people that have to work very had at falling in love (these are typically the people that I have found have been through a lot of sh!t in previous relationships or the selfish people). As for love, I believe in it....but it has multitudes of different levels. Some are easier to reach than others.

Now marriage on the other hand....I don't get the point of it....but that's not the topic of this thread

[Rob]

Originally posted by DsBlu01CivEX
Now marriage on the other hand....I don't get the point of it....but that's not the topic of this thread
exactly....


as for your comments Rob, I agree with you 100%....

[SofaKingSmooth]

Originally posted by mt.biker
What do you think it takes to truly love someone?


love is when you can sacrifice your needs and wants without the though of what will happen to yourself. now to be able to do that there must be trust and lots of other crazy things that are hard to do.


plus the word love is way over used....

[DsBlu01CivEX]

Originally posted by AccordinStyle
that and there isn't any such thing as morals anymore....:rolleyes:


HEY NOW!!!! *D taps her foot* Not all of us are "corrupt" human beings!!! and we do have morals. I think a lot of us consider people to not have morals because they aren't the same morals we'd pick for ourselves to follow.


*sorry I don't know how I missed that line before...I just saw it now.

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by DsBlu01CivEX
HEY NOW!!!! *D taps her foot* Not all of us are "corrupt" human beings!!! and we do have morals. I think a lot of us consider people to not have morals because they aren't the same morals we'd pick for ourselves to follow.


*sorry I don't know how I missed that line before...I just saw it now.

You're right about that, often we hold other people to a higher standard then we TRULY hold ourselves too, its human nature. I think if you can get past that you'r still goign to realize that in GENERAL society's moral code is slipping, its not teh end of the world you just have to keep it in mind. And when you find that special someone who's right for you, you make every possibly attempt to make it work.

[DsBlu01CivEX]

my point was merely to say...who's to say another person's morals are wrong or inappropriate? Sure, I think there a lot of people that don't have good morals ect...BUT who's to say those people that I think "poorly" about don't think the same about my morals. I don't think there is just 1 "moral code" anymore. Sure back in the early 1900s there might have been, but our world today is completely different than it was 100 years ago. I dunno...just my take on things...

[spoogenet]

Originally posted by DsBlu01CivEX
my point was merely to say...who's to say another person's morals are wrong or inappropriate? Sure, I think there a lot of people that don't have good morals ect...BUT who's to say those people that I think "poorly" about don't think the same about my morals. I don't think there is just 1 "moral code" anymore. Sure back in the early 1900s there might have been, but our world today is completely different than it was 100 years ago. I dunno...just my take on things...

I agree there is no one moral code anymore. I do believe that we must all follow a basic set of standard morals for peace to exist in society, however beyond that I feel it's up to the individual to decide his/her own morals. I have a problem with government imposing ridiculous morals upon us through law, especially since many of them lack a variety of morals and don't abide by the very laws they create, but that's off topic for this thread.

I don't think it takes any work to love, it just happens when the right ingredients exist, it's like a self-baking bread. Each person's list of ingredients will vary. For me, I don't know. I would just need the right woman at the right time for me to fall in love with her. Known qualitities that she must posess are a set of morals very similar to my own, trustworthiness, honesty, and just be a woman I can connect with as a friend, a lover, and a partner.

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[Rob]

Originally posted by DsBlu01CivEX
HEY NOW!!!! *D taps her foot* Not all of us are "corrupt" human beings!!! and we do have morals. I think a lot of us consider people to not have morals because they aren't the same morals we'd pick for ourselves to follow.


*sorry I don't know how I missed that line before...I just saw it now.
I know...but the point I was trying to make was this....at one point, when people got married and took vows, they honored them....alot of people (including my parents) that I meet that were married in the 70's...80's are still married and have been for 20 + years...nowadays, it's easier for people to be married when it's convenient to them. I really don't like bringing this up since it's a sore subject but take for instance my situation. I got married and loved my wife more than anything and would do anything for her. Never even thought about cheating on her because that's not who I am. Her, on the other hand had no self-esteem, no self-confidence, and ABSOLUTELY no morals. I know because I knew her parents and saw what type of people they were so it wasn't a big surprise to see how it shined through on their daughter. So, she married me until she met someone that she "loved" more and decided that she didn't want to be married to me anymore. So, in her views it was death 'till you part or until you meet someone else :rolleyes:

And, I'm not trying to say my morals are any better than anyone elses...I just know that when I'm with someone in a relationship, I'm with that person and that person only...I don't cheat, **** around, or otherwise and maybe that's because I was brought up with some kind of morals and know the difference between what's right and what's not.........but that's just me...

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by AccordinStyle
And, I'm not trying to say my morals are any better than anyone elses...I just know that when I'm with someone in a relationship, I'm with that person and that person only...I don't cheat, **** around, or otherwise and maybe that's because I was brought up with some kind of morals and know the difference between what's right and what's not.........but that's just me...

Dude must be a Rob thing cause i'm the same way.. *props*

But dude look what you've learned from this, a persons up bringing plays a large role in how they will be when they are an adult. A girl who has a good relationship with her father will make a great wife and a boy who treats his mother well will make a great husband. You've been given a chance to learn bro and I'm sure you have, now you've just got to make sure your child has a good up bringing and you'll have broken the chain.

[SofaKingSmooth]

Originally posted by mt.biker
Dude must be a Rob thing cause i'm the same way.. *props*

But dude look what you've learned from this, a persons up bringing plays a large role in how they will be when they are an adult. A girl who has a good relationship with her father will make a great wife and a boy who treats his mother well will make a great husband. You've been given a chance to learn bro and I'm sure you have, now you've just got to make sure your child has a good up bringing and you'll have broken the chain.



so true, i think that the robs have it on this chat i wish i was cool enough to be called rob but i guess shawn will have to do for now..

[nonovurbizniz]

I just want to point out that this magical time of morals and ethics just didn't friggen exist. if anything society is becoming more empathetic, more understanding, more prone towards calm intelligent resolution to problems then ever before.

Sure divorce is on the rise... mostly because once it wasn't taboo TONS of people who were to scared to get a divorce because of what people would think did once it was more acceptable.

I can't even begin to list the amount of OLD people that I know through friends and family that have or are getting divorced.. my mother's friends parents got divorced at 80+. They got married when "morals" where apparently coming out of peoples butt's like the crap that is coming out of peoples mouths now...

Name ANY time period and I'll give you examples...

If you ask me the reason for the rise of divorce could be more easily attributed to women having self-respect enough to leave a crappy husband (or vise versus and no promiscuous women are NOT an advent of the 20th century). Do you have any idea how many marriages from the "moral" era to which I assume you refer where laced with child molestation/abuse, wife beating/rape, cheating, alcohol/drug abuse, and countless other Horrors?

My point is that this ideal time to which countless morals advocates refer, does not and never did exist... if you think it did your either naive or dumb.

OH AND MOST IMPORTANTLY....

IT'S DEFINATLY THE TITIES:eek: :yes: :eek: :yes: :loco:

[mt.biker]

this is true dude there have always been people doing wrong things. But i still tend to believe that people weren't as corrupt awhile ago. But maybe its just me.. cheers big ears

[nonovurbizniz]

trust me it was worse....

think about hall the violence against women blacks and children that never got reported or talked about....

think about how many girls where sent off for "vacation" to have illegitimate babies which they immediatly gave up for adoption to save face for the family.

The history of violence against minority's is probobly the most disturbing of all. It was totally socially acceptable to pick a fight with a black person and kill them in anger. most times the person wouldn't even be charged with a crime.

And that's AFTER slavery... before holyshit now we're talking about un-paralleled hatred anger and violence.

[DsBlu01CivEX]

Originally posted by mt.biker
this is true dude there have always been people doing wrong things. But i still tend to believe that people weren't as corrupt awhile ago. But maybe its just me.. cheers big ears

see the thing is it's easy for us to say that people are more corrupt now then say back in the 80s, 70s, 60s, 50s, ect cuz we're all "adults" now. We read newspapers, we watch the news....and we understand pretty much everything thats going on. We tend to care more about "the news" as adults rather than children do. I know now growin up in the 80s that there were corrupt ass people, but ya know what, I could have given a rats ass then. All I cared about was playin outside with my friends and what new toys I could talk my parents into buying me. There have always been and always will be corrupt people, that'll never change. we just grow more aware to it as we grow older and more knowledgable.

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by DsBlu01CivEX
we just grow more aware to it as we grow older and more knowledgable.

possibly, but i still think society is changing.

[spoogenet]

I think society is heading downhill. We are in the "pill culture" right now where nobody will take responsibility for their own actions or actually put the effort into understanding the CAUSE of the problem but would rather take a pill to treat the symptoms. It's the easy way out, nobody's willing to invest any effort or work for results. We need the pill diet rather than merely eating less food, cutting out cheesecakes and fast food and putting a little bit of frikkin exercise in our lives.

I'm not fat, I'm genetically challenged with a natural propensity to eat excessive numbers of Big Macs. I can't lose weight because it's my genetics, it really has nothing to do with my 6 hours a day of watching TV and eating cheesy poofs and my total lack of exercise.

I didn't choose to smoke, I was forced into it by the cigarette companies. I should sue.

My child would rather play outside than do his homework, he must have ADD or ADHD, could I please have some Ritalin?

I have a runny nose, please give me antibiotics.

blah blah blah......BAH!

It makes me sick. I'd like to see people stand up and take responsibility for their own actions and suck it up like people with dignity rather than shifting the blame to someone else and/or trying to get rich in the process through a lawyer. I'd like to see people look at the long-term effects and the cause of the problem before making decisions just to treat the near term problem. Our government has fallen victim to such "planning" where they will simply build with 1 year in mind rather than actually looking at the long term effects.

I'll spare you all the rest of my rant.

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[Wabster]

I read about half of your replies.

Saying that love doens't take much effort is just plain dumb. I think most people get convinced they're in love when some guy/girl sweeps them off their feet. :no: Sorry, that's NOT love.

When you love someone, you put their interests BEFORE yours when making a decision. If you're lucky, they will do the same for you. Anybody who says that putting their partner's interests before their own takes little or no effort is a liar.

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by Wabster
When you love someone, you put their interests BEFORE yours when making a decision. If you're lucky, they will do the same for you. Anybody who says that putting their partner's interests before their own takes little or no effort is a liar.

see i agree that putting your interestes ahead of others is important but i dont believe it requires more effort.

[Wabster]

It requires effort for me. My gf and I have a long distance relationship, and saying "yeah go out tonight have a good time at the club" is hard for me, but i know i have to do it. It would be easy for me to say "no i don't want you going out, your staying in tonight". Shit like that

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by Wabster
It requires effort for me. My gf and I have a long distance relationship, and saying "yeah go out tonight have a good time at the club" is hard for me, but i know i have to do it. It would be easy for me to say "no i don't want you going out, your staying in tonight". Shit like that

ya but if you said that you would be controlling....