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ShagginJet
11-04-2002, 06:15 PM
So i haven't seen this posted, I fureged I'd start it up. Everyone keep an open mind, let's go.
So who's cheated on someone, who's been cheated on, who's been the third party with a cheater?
What's everyones thoughts on cheating?
Cheated on :wave: that's why I'm divorced....do you still want my opinion on it.........
DsBlu01CivEX
11-04-2002, 06:20 PM
I never cheated (not even on a test at school)...never been cheated on....sort of been the 3rd party....My dad cheated on my mom...hence the reason why I have trust issues with guys and if a guy ever cheats on me, it'll be a day he'll always regret....I'll make sure he regrets it too!:bandit: I have an issue with cheaters....:paranoid:
ShagginJet
11-04-2002, 06:20 PM
Let's get the whole story... Accord
Originally posted by ShagginJet
Let's get the whole story... Accord
o.k., here goes.....
I'm in the Air Force, my ex-wife WAS in the AF...we worked together in the same place...well, before we met she was a very, very, very flirtatious person....one of the reasons why we ended up together since I tend to be flirtation myself (ask D). Well, there was a guy that also worked with us that had a crush on my wife. I new this and had a "talk" with him (read told him that I would ****ing kill him if he didn't stop what he was doing). Well, my ex being the flirtation person that she was, liked the attention she was getting. That and she just had our daughter so she was going through that after giving birth I'm unattractive shit. This guy played off of that and well, long story short. I found out they were ****ing around. Oh and by the way, they're married now and my daughter calls him "daddy"....so, if you want to know my thoughts on cheating, I think it sucks and I would never put someone through what I went through. I have NEVER cheated on anyone...even while I was still married and my wife was ****ing someone else, I didn't have sex with anyone else until the divorce was final.
ebpda9
11-04-2002, 06:38 PM
Originally posted by AccordinStyle
o.k., here goes.....
Oh and by the way, they're married now and my daughter calls him "daddy that's totally phucked up dude. i'm sorry.
mt.biker
11-04-2002, 06:39 PM
Originally posted by AccordinStyle
o.k., here goes.....
I'm in the Air Force, my ex-wife WAS in the AF...we worked together in the same place...well, before we met she was a very, very, very flirtatious person....one of the reasons why we ended up together since I tend to be flirtation myself (ask D). Well, there was a guy that also worked with us that had a crush on my wife. I new this and had a "talk" with him (read told him that I would ****ing kill him if he didn't stop what he was doing). Well, my ex being the flirtation person that she was, liked the attention she was getting. That and she just had our daughter so she was going through that after giving birth I'm unattractive shit. This guy played off of that and well, long story short. I found out they were ****ing around. Oh and by the way, they're married now and my daughter calls him "daddy"....so, if you want to know my thoughts on cheating, I think it sucks and I would never put someone through what I went through. I have NEVER cheated on anyone...even while I was still married and my wife was ****ing someone else, I didn't have sex with anyone else until the divorce was final.
henc my sig comment. Dude thats harsh, do you still get to see your daughter?
Cheaters should be shot in the street for their actions. I think cheating on all levels is wrong, once a cheater always a cheater. If its a test, wife or what not. You cheat in one you'll cheat in another.
ShagginJet
11-04-2002, 06:44 PM
Accord: WOW... I feel so bad. I've been the third party before. Once i knew about it before it happened, another i didn't know about it untill about 2 months into the relationship. I didn't mean for it to happen in the first situation, it just ended up happening.
Cheating does suck. Don't really know how to express my real thoughts on the subject. Haven't been cheated on yet, when it happens, i'll just want a why, then it'll be over.
Originally posted by hondaman-iac
that's totally phucked up dude. i'm sorry.
Thanks Stefan, it's alright...I've learned to deal with it...
Originally posted by mt.biker
henc my sig comment. Dude thats harsh, do you still get to see your daughter?
I still get to see her....when I'm not in Korea that is. But yeah, it's part of the divorce decree.....
The thing that sucks is she's so young (she'll be 3 next month) so all she knows is what's around her. I haven't been around for a year and that mother****er has been there everyday so as far as my daughter is concerned right now, he is "daddy"....I get upset just thinking about it......
mt.biker
11-04-2002, 06:46 PM
oh i've never been cheated on or been the cheater. I just believe its one of the worst things you can do inlife.
ebpda9
11-04-2002, 06:59 PM
Originally posted by AccordinStyle
The thing that sucks is she's so young (she'll be 3 next month) so all she knows is what's around her. I haven't been around for a year and that mother****er has been there everyday so as far as my daughter is concerned right now, he is "daddy"....I get upset just thinking about it......
i'll shoot him for you. just get me an AK-47:crazy:
ShagginJet
11-04-2002, 07:01 PM
I have a modded 22 rifle that's acurate to 400 yards....?
Originally posted by hondaman-iac
i'll shoot him for you. just get me an AK-47:crazy:
He's already had a S&W Sigma 9 mil. to his forehead but that's a different story :crazy: but thanks for the offer ;)
mt.biker
11-04-2002, 07:03 PM
i have a really big car.... zoom zoom splat!
DsBlu01CivEX
11-04-2002, 07:48 PM
hey look at that support....I've already offered to kick his ex-wife's @ass for her wanting her new hubby to call him "daddy". We can take the whole "family" out and you can have your lil girl all to yourself!:bandit:
Originally posted by DsBlu01CivEX
hey look at that support....I've already offered to kick his ex-wife's @ass for her wanting her new hubby to call him "daddy". We can take the whole "family" out and you can have your lil girl all to yourself!:bandit:
:hmmm: get everyone together...."take out" the family...get my daughter....and have an HS meet afterwards :yes:
VR4_Craver
11-04-2002, 08:05 PM
I have been the target of cheating numerous by the same girl...But i was to blind to see that she wasnt worth my time. I have many stories about her....Ask dr dingo if there is doubt he knows about all of them.
mt.biker
11-04-2002, 09:25 PM
just tell me where and when and I'll drive down to the states.. and start a ruckus
Originally posted by mt.biker
just tell me where and when and I'll drive down to the states.. and start a ruckus
cool.. ;)
mt.biker
11-04-2002, 09:33 PM
us brotha gotta sick together now ya hear!
Originally posted by mt.biker
us brotha gotta sick together now ya hear! :yes:
HondaStyle Mob Squad. Here to Serve You!
dude, Rob, that really sucks what happened...thats so ****ed up..sorry you have to go through that bro.
Sh!t happens man...it's all good.
ShEaNy
11-05-2002, 02:28 AM
wow....can i have a pic of ur ex-wife so if i see her i will ****ing SLAP HER in THE FACE...sorry......its good to hear ur dealing with this...i hope u continue to live ur life happily....and im with everyone on the Mob Squad...:yes: ;) :pukey :eek:
V8killimports
11-05-2002, 03:10 AM
Originally posted by AccordinStyle
Sh!t happens man...it's all good.
Hey man I know what you are talking about. I have only been married since March and we are both in the Air Force. Military sometimes seems like it's full of sex starved pervs.. cause after work that's all they do.. go to the club and cheat on their wives/husbands. I completely trust my wife and as of now don't think she would ever do anything like that.. who know 5 years down the road.. she may get tired of me. But if she cheated on me (sex, kiss, or anything with anyother guy) that would be the end of the marriage with no discussion.
That's the one thing I hate about the military... the saying "what goes TDY, stays TDY" is horseshit. I had a navy guy in my class cheat on his fiance all the time, and almost told her when she came into town.. Nothing gets me more pissed off and stirred up than this shit. My wife is always hit on at bars (usually by pilots who are married, and no I am not there when it happens), and the shit really pisses me off.
Anyways, I could go on for hours about this.. just REALLY pisses me off.
ohiochica
11-05-2002, 08:32 AM
OK talk about military and wives etc..................i want your opinion, actually maybe just venting....
my best friend from highschool went into the military, and this summer he came home for a few weeks. well the first day he was in town we got together for lunch and had a blast! the next day he called me and said lets go to a movie we went..well my dumb ass decided to act upon my crush and kiss him on the cheek when we were watching the movie. well .... he pulled away, no bigge i should not have done it to begin with. well at the end of the movie we just sat and chatted as the whole theater rushed out (i cant stand mobs) as were were walking out he playfully went to pin me against the wall and kiss me (i was once raped so being against the wall freaked me out majorly) well i gracefully backed out of the kiss and acted as if he had not done it. well that night i thought we would go grab drinks or something and he instead asks me to take him home so he can go out with the guys i was cool with that. the next day we had plans to go to cedar point, we had them for atleast 6 months! well he never called me and never showed up at home and he has not talked to me since that day! he avoided me and i did talk to him 1 time after and i asked him "why are you avoiding me" and he replyed because "your mad at me and for just reason, i gotta go to work and i will talk to you later, love ya, bye" ok well...months have past he knows i am back with brian and he is back with his fiance :pukey (same chick who dumped him cuz she didnt want to be a military wife:pukey god i hate her!) well anyways he still will not talk to me......a few of my military friends say he is just upset cuz i rejected his kiss. what is your opinion? how should i handle this? he was my best friend for sooooooooo many years, we have been thru so much and we are soooooo awesome together. we have this brother sister bond thats unreal. and no i dont love him in that way but i love him as a brother.........grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
ohiochica
11-05-2002, 08:35 AM
omg sorry for all the typos and huge post i never meant to ramble on that much....sorry
mt.biker
11-05-2002, 08:38 AM
sounds like lose lose situtation.... kissing him would have been wrong from what i can make out in your typin. Why not just slowly try and get back into his life? He must feel something if he says he still loves ya.
ohiochica
11-05-2002, 09:01 AM
it was more a love as friends and he still is freaking avoiding me. i have no interest in getting together with him i just want our friendship back. brian is pissed at him for the way he is acting and doesnt even want me to ever call him etc. god i am beginning to think guys are idiots all the way around!.....lol
and yes i will go fix all of my typos.........lol
V8killimports
11-05-2002, 09:34 AM
sounds like he is just embarassed from getting rejected..
ShagginJet
11-05-2002, 11:03 AM
god i am beginning to think guys are idiots all the way around!.....lol
Yes, we pretty much are. Some of us are pretty close to normal, but others are by far, complete idiots.
sounds like he is just embarassed from getting rejected..
I think this is the true reason why he's avoiding you. You showed intrest, then he put you in a situation that you were uncomfortable about, and you pulled away. He thinks you pulled away from him, so now he has a complex. He's probably mad that he didn't seal the deal when you made your move.
mt.biker
11-05-2002, 11:52 AM
Well after giving this some thought here what i think.
I think you gone and done something you shouldn't of. It was you who crossed the line and started his "emotions";) Then when he makes a move you back out. Maybe he just doesn't want anything to do with the likes of you considering the game you played.
I know its harsh but heck if I was him I wouldn't want to talk to you either. Maybe he figured you ment something by it and he felt the same way, but you didn't feel the same way because you pulled away. And they call men stupid players.... girls are twice as bad!
ohiochica
11-05-2002, 12:27 PM
Originally posted by mt.biker
And they call men stupid players.... girls are twice as bad! [/B]
lol;) i know i dont make much sense but damn neither did he by backing away from me first. anyways i dont want a bf/gf relationship i just wanted to keep our friendship but i guess thats gone down the drain. confused: oh well......sigh......:banghead:
ShagginJet
11-05-2002, 12:29 PM
Yeah, that sort of thing kind of kills a relationship, friend or not. Give it time, if you two were truely friends, then over time it'll work out and you'll be friends again.
ohiochica
11-05-2002, 12:39 PM
ok i am not stressing over loser boy anymore. i know his freaking personality and it changes with what is going on with work. he has not been the same guy since he joined teh military but i still think he is suffering with ptsd.......he wtached his buddy's tank get blown up by one of the guys under him and since he was supervising they made him go pick up and tag the pieces. thank god he gets out in a year! any ways i am babbling so i am gonna go shut up and go to sleep!
ebpda9
11-05-2002, 12:47 PM
go to sleep now ? it's almost 2 pm :crazy: :paranoid:
sorry to hear about your friend
ohiochica
11-05-2002, 01:07 PM
i got 2 hours sleep last night soooooooooo yes i should be sleeping right now but instead i am playing online.......god am i gonan be hurting tonight!
ShagginJet
11-05-2002, 01:16 PM
playing online...? video games?
ohiochica
11-05-2002, 01:35 PM
no i dont play games..............i am chatting with others that have teh same interests...special needs kids.
mt.biker
11-05-2002, 04:52 PM
I'm begging to learn that it has more to do with what we've done in a situtation then the other person. We tend to blame him/her for the relationships that crumble but more often then not it was our own fault and for one reason or another we are unable to face it.
ohiochica
11-05-2002, 08:17 PM
oh i know it was my fault, i started it. i think he would have let it go by now if he wasnt under so much stress. oh well it will all get solved. i am not stressing about this.
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