what do you look for in a person?

[mt.biker]

what do you look for in a person, and im not talking about looks here i'm talkin about personality wise.. DONT BRING UP LOOKS!

[TonitrusEN]

Someone who doesn't ***** about stupid shit, such as a guy looking at porn.. not like "Hi im looking at porn" but if someone in the room has porn on the TV.. they go "DONT LOOK AT IT, DONT LOOK AT HER" thats annoying as hell

um.. nice? not a person who feels they need to be with me all day long... guess thats it..

Oh... and a girl that would be happy just going for a drive with me...

























and looks *RUNS FROM ROB*

[gixer]

a decent sense of humor...not a hater... that is all... wait, good teeth is a must...:paranoid:

[DsBlu01CivEX]

gixer...good teeth would fall under the looks category....and man you guys don't look for much in girls....

Me...I look for a sense of humor (any kind as long as he's not mean and hatin on everyone) respectful, honest, caring, trust-worthy, has goals in life and willing to work hard to achieve those goals, similar interests as me-but also diverse interests so he can teach me about some of the things he loves that I might not know anything about, a guy that isn't clingy to me or his friends and can do independent things, and someone that I can completely goof off with but then turn around and have a very intelligent meaningful conversation with. Oh yah and someone that is "emotionally" sound.

I think that's it for now. If I think of any others I'll post them

[gixer]

Originally posted by DsBlu01CivEX
gixer...good teeth would fall under the looks category....and man you guys don't look for much in girls....



hmm...let's just say i'm referring to girls who take care of their teeth...:paranoid: ...

[mt.biker]

do you think you guys expect more from your partner then you do form yourselves?

[incubus86]

TRUST

[msvtec14]

Understanding. Not being obsessive or controlling. Good sense of humor. Intelligent. Trust worthy. Not being stuck up or competitive. Honest. Someone who is not scared of his feelings or expressing them. Don't play games or put up a stupid front. NOT asking me to sleep over constantly after I went out with you once.

[incubus86]

Originally posted by msvtec14
NOT asking me to sleep over constantly after I went out with you once.

will it every stop?

[msvtec14]

Originally posted by incubus86


will it every stop?

I'm not sure. I'm still kind of weirded out by it. I haven't gone out with anyone since then. Then, that whole e-mail thing happened. That pissed me off. He was mad at me after I made it pretty clear that I wasn't interested. Immature.

[ebpda9]

sorry biker to sink your boat but don't you think looks play a role in a relationship ? basically in someone i look for a good personality, and somebody that will give me a shoulder to cry on when i need to (biker knows more about)

[msvtec14]

Yeah, if you're not physically attracted to a person what are you supposed to do? Put a bag over their head?

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by msvtec14
Yeah, if you're not physically attracted to a person what are you supposed to do? Put a bag over their head?

granted dating an ugly chick would be hard, but really it should be more about who she is then what she is.

hondaman-iac dude you got it rough, no question about it.


For me its:

-RESPECT
-Trust
-communication
-dependable
-understanding
-caring
-kind
-control of her emtions
-understands herself, otherwise shes never gonna be able to understand me if she doesn't get herself first
-mature (girls who play games make things hard)
-enjoys similar things as me but also has different interests
-complex (most girls are :yes: )
-willing to try new things
-has no problem putting a man in his place while still showing respect

thats just a few there are more but thats enough typin for one post

[cutiepy701]

I look for someone who is nice, intelligent, someone who can hold a decent conversation. Someone who is honest and willing to communicate. I hate people who lie. A man with morals, and goals in life. I want someone who trust me and isn't insecure. Someone who doesn't start a fight about something stupid just for attention. A person who doesn't yell, but would rather talk about things. Has to respect me as well as himself. He can't be rude or downgrade people. Someone who likes to have fun, but is content sometimes with cuddling on the couch and watching a movie.
He has to have a sense of humor. And can't be boring. Someone who listens as well as gives advice. Someone who will love me for everything, faults and all and not be biased because of them. Not afraid of commitment.
And a guy who has his own mind, not his friends mind. This happens all to much where a guy will let his friends influence his thinking because they make him feel embarassed or something cuz he thinks he might be in love. A
strong man, someone who isn't a pussy and will stick up for himself or me when put in the situation.

............I guess that is about it.....:rolleyes:

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by cutiepy701

And a guy who has his own mind, not his friends mind. This happens all to much where a guy will let his friends influence his thinking because they make him feel embarassed or something cuz he thinks he might be in love.


i think this also goes for girls...

[DsBlu01CivEX]

Originally posted by mt.biker
do you think you guys expect more from your partner then you do form yourselves?

NO...I DEFINITELY expect more out of myself than I do my partner. I think I have proven that time and time again too. The thing that sucks is that I always end up gettin dogged cuz of it too. I'll learn one of these days.

As for the looks thing. I know what Rob was tryin to do. We as humans focus on the visual aspect of relationships....he was tryin to get us to focus on the things that actually hold the relationship together and find out what is important to us. Looks are what initially draw us in....but you can be with the most attractive person on the planet and still be lonely cuz they aren't fulfilling your needs in the relationship.

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by DsBlu01CivEX

As for the looks thing. I know what Rob was tryin to do. We as humans focus on the visual aspect of relationships....he was tryin to get us to focus on the things that actually hold the relationship together and find out what is important to us. Looks are what initially draw us in....but you can be with the most attractive person on the planet and still be lonely cuz they aren't fulfilling your needs in the relationship.

yup yup ya got me pegged

[ebpda9]

Originally posted by DsBlu01CivEX


NO...I DEFINITELY expect more out of myself than I do my partner. I think I have proven that time and time again too. The thing that sucks is that I always end up gettin dogged cuz of it too. I'll learn one of these days.

As for the looks thing. I know what Rob was tryin to do. We as humans focus on the visual aspect of relationships....he was tryin to get us to focus on the things that actually hold the relationship together and find out what is important to us. Looks are what initially draw us in....but you can be with the most attractive person on the planet and still be lonely cuz they aren't fulfilling your needs in the relationship.


couldn't have said it better.

[spoogenet]

Originally posted by mt.biker


granted dating an ugly chick would be hard, but really it should be more about who she is then what she is.

For me its:

-RESPECT
-Trust
-communication
-dependable
-understanding
-caring
-kind
-control of her emtions
-understands herself, otherwise shes never gonna be able to understand me if she doesn't get herself first
-mature (girls who play games make things hard)
-enjoys similar things as me but also has different interests
-complex (most girls are :yes: )
-willing to try new things
-has no problem putting a man in his place while still showing respect



:bow:

And to append the list with a few more of my own:

-honest
-decent dresser
-makes me feel special and feels special herself
-intelligent
-expressive in a controlled manner (i.e. not a ***** about things)

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[nitishere]

FEEEEEEEEEEET HAVE TO BE CUTE

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by nitishere
FEEEEEEEEEEET HAVE TO BE CUTE

we're talking things other then physical looks

[cutiepy701]

Originally posted by mt.biker


i think this also goes for girls...

I agree, why can't people just be themselves?:no:

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by cutiepy701


I agree, why can't people just be themselves?:no:

not sure but i'm begining to see my first thoughts of people normally are to conservative and the more and more i get to know someone i find out they were alot worse then i first thought :paranoid:

[msvtec14]

Yeah, that's called a front. Because people want to project a certain image of theirselves to impress people. Or because they know that they're not that good of people and maybe it will help them to feel better about the paths that they have chosen.

[Whiteclipse99]

Originally posted by cutiepy701


I agree, why can't people just be themselves?:no:


It's such a dissapointment to find that the person you thought you were getting to know and like really weren't themselves. I try to always be myself when meeting new people and they either like me for me or they don't, although it bothers me when people don't like me, but life goes on. You can't win everybody.

As for what I look for in the opposite sex:

sense of humor (a must!)
caring/kind/nice
intellegent
honest
motivated
respectful
optomistic
similar interests
makes me feel safe when I'm with him
nonjudgemental

[mt.biker]

now if we were to get more descriptive what exactly are you looking for people? this is a good over view but can anyone be more descriptive?

[cutiepy701]

Originally posted by cutiepy701
I look for someone who is nice, intelligent, someone who can hold a decent conversation. Someone who is honest and willing to communicate. I hate people who lie. A man with morals, and goals in life. I want someone who trust me and isn't insecure. Someone who doesn't start a fight about something stupid just for attention. A person who doesn't yell, but would rather talk about things. Has to respect me as well as himself. He can't be rude or downgrade people. Someone who likes to have fun, but is content sometimes with cuddling on the couch and watching a movie.
He has to have a sense of humor. And can't be boring. Someone who listens as well as gives advice. Someone who will love me for everything, faults and all and not be biased because of them. Not afraid of commitment.
And a guy who has his own mind, not his friends mind. This happens all to much where a guy will let his friends influence his thinking because they make him feel embarassed or something cuz he thinks he might be in love. A
strong man, someone who isn't a pussy and will stick up for himself or me when put in the situation.

............I guess that is about it.....:rolleyes:


How much more descriptive do you want mt biker??LOL

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by cutiepy701



How much more descriptive do you want mt biker??LOL

maybe there is nothing more to say.. i dunno just prying :)

[msvtec14]

I look for someone that won't steal out of my car.

[Racing Rice]

My girl has to be honest, as goofy as me, and someone I can trust. Plus someone that likes to get out and do stuff, not a girl thats afraid sweat. :yes:

Now if I could just teach my wife to stop kicking my ass at everything she'd be perfect..:D ;)

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by Racing Rice
My girl has to be honest, as goofy as me, and someone I can trust. Plus someone that likes to get out and do stuff, not a girl thats afraid sweat. :yes:

Now if I could just teach my wife to stop kicking my ass at everything she'd be perfect..:D ;)

she still riding cricles around you? :yes:

[Racing Rice]

Originally posted by mt.biker


she still riding cricles around you? :yes:

Ha, no.. thats one thing I got her beat at.. Endurance..

She usually beats me at basketball (sometimes), Air hockey (All the damn time! I cant ever win!!!!) Pool.. And stuff like that. Oh and lets not forget dicussion.. She always has the last word.

[cutiepy701]

Originally posted by Racing Rice


Ha, no.. thats one thing I got her beat at.. Endurance..

She usually beats me at basketball (sometimes), Air hockey (All the damn time! I cant ever win!!!!) Pool.. And stuff like that. Oh and lets not forget dicussion.. She always has the last word.

Sounds like a great wife to me...LOL:D

[Zybach]

Hmm its kind of hard to not bring up looks when your asking what we look for in people. Some body told me this once I forgot how it goes but the gest is that in life everyone has to try but the ugly people have to try a hell of a lot harder. So I guess besides looks, you have to be able to talk to her about something serious with out her cracking up.

[spoogenet]

Originally posted by Zybach
So I guess besides looks, you have to be able to talk to her about something serious with out her cracking up.

That totally pisses me off. I file that one under lack of maturity.....I can't stand someone who's incapable of holding a meaningful and serious conversation without laughing as if it's a joke.

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[ricerX]

mt.biker and spoogenet hit it.

She also has to smell good. ;)

[msvtec14]

Yeah, or I hate it if someone just can have a serious conversation with getting all distracted and weird about it. That used to happen with one of my X's. We would be talking and he would start picking at the wallpaper or playing with random things that were on the table or something. Not cool.

[ebpda9]

Originally posted by msvtec14
Yeah, or I hate it if someone just can have a serious conversation with getting all distracted and weird about it. That used to happen with one of my X's. We would be talking and he would start picking at the wallpaper or playing with random things that were on the table or something. Not cool.

were you too harsh on him ? i know i do thopse king of things when somebody is harsh on me, or if they try to impose only their view of things. actually i always play with random things no matter what i do. i guess i'm too hyper active

[msvtec14]

Originally posted by hondaman-iac


were you too harsh on him ? i know i do thopse king of things when somebody is harsh on me, or if they try to impose only their view of things. actually i always play with random things no matter what i do. i guess i'm too hyper active

No, I was never harsh on him. After we broke up and because he f*cked me over...Yeah, I was harsh. But in a relationship, I'm not a ***** and I will do anything to avoid a fight. Obviously, little random fights will happen but I'm not with a person because I want to be a ***** and fight with him. I have friends like that. They do it because they love the drama.

[ebpda9]

Originally posted by msvtec14

I have friends like that. They do it because they love the drama.

tell them to watch lifetime or some of those south american soaps :crazy:

[msvtec14]

Originally posted by hondaman-iac


tell them to watch lifetime or some of those south american soaps :crazy:

Lifetime a.k.a the panyhose, man hating channel. I hate that channel. It just makes women look stupid.

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by msvtec14


Lifetime a.k.a the panyhose, man hating channel. I hate that channel. It just makes women look stupid.

hun wake up call, most of them are far from brillant (sp?) but then again i guess that goes for guys too... :yes:

[msvtec14]

Originally posted by mt.biker


hun wake up call, most of them are far from brillant (sp?) but then again i guess that goes for guys too... :yes:

Mt Biker...what's up with being mean to me lately? I upset you in the other thread too because I mixed and matched what people said...But anyway, me being one of the intelligent ones, the panyhose channel pisses me off. Not only does it make women look stupid, I feel it makes them look helpless as well. My husband is always beating me because I burn his toast and I've been putting up with it for 25 years.

[mt.biker]

Originally posted by msvtec14


Mt Biker...what's up with being mean to me lately? I upset you in the other thread too because I mixed and matched what people said...But anyway, me being one of the intelligent ones, the panyhose channel pisses me off. Not only does it make women look stupid, I feel it makes them look helpless as well. My husband is always beating me because I burn his toast and I've been putting up with it for 25 years.

i think i'm getting bitter;( gonna stay out of this forum for awhile