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ohiochica
02-02-2003, 05:57 PM
ok this is only for the people that are legally old enough to drink...... what would you say about a 24 year old female dating a 35 year old guy? they have common interests and he treats her great.
shut up rob!;)
ebpda9
02-02-2003, 06:02 PM
yeah shut up rob ;)
i really don't know what to say on that matter
what the hell :confused: Hope that wasn't intended for me....:paranoid:
As for age difference, it doesn't matter....as long as you are both happy...
ohiochica
02-02-2003, 06:12 PM
no that was directed towards mt biker, and i already know his very vocal opinion on it.
mt.biker
02-02-2003, 06:13 PM
Originally posted by AccordinStyle
what the hell :confused: Hope that wasn't intended for me....:paranoid:
As for age difference, it doesn't matter....as long as you are both happy...
No that was aimed at me.... I dont think 11 years would work, considering the other details that have been left out its not a fair question to say "would 11 years stop a relationship?" there are alot of other factors that have to be considered.
ebpda9
02-02-2003, 06:14 PM
mah bad, i thought you knew according style would make fun of it as usual :loco: riiiiiiiiiiiight bubu ?
ohiochica
02-02-2003, 06:18 PM
ok what i left out was that he has 3 kids but i left that out because he is a great father to them. and under no circumstances is he looking for a mom for them. and i left out that we are going out thursday as friends only. (his words) and no i am not looking for anything more because i just got out of aloooooooooong relationship and i dont want to head that way anytime soon.
and i am just getting opinions. opinions are like a$$holes, every has one.
Originally posted by hondaman-iac
mah bad, i thought you knew according style would make fun of it as usual :loco: riiiiiiiiiiiight bubu ?
lol...
Becky, just to let you know...when I was 21, I was dating a 32 yr old and the reason why we broke up was because we were getting shit from our families because of the age difference. Now in your case, him being 35...you 24, I don't really see a problem there, with the age difference that is, but if there is more to this story that might affect the outcome then maybe you should add it to your original question. If you want my opinion....it is so damn hard to find someone these days that if this person, 11 yr difference or not, is someone that will treat you right and you can be happy with.....then I say go for it. :cool:
*EDIT* 3 kids....run like hell..........
*EDIT AGAIN*
Originally posted by ohiochica
opinions are like a$$holes, every has one.
and some are stinky ;)
ohiochica
02-02-2003, 06:31 PM
roflmao...........now see kids dont matter a damn bit to me, as long as teh guy is a good dad. he was married when he had them so its no problem to me.
Originally posted by ohiochica
roflmao...........now see kids dont matter a damn bit to me, as long as teh guy is a good dad. he was married when he had them so its no problem to me.
Becky, let me break it down for you
35 yr old w/kids = he was married for a while = he has an ex-wife = you have to deal with that ex-wife if you are with the 35 yr old w/kids = drama up the ying yang = if these kids don't like you, they'll be a bunch of shitheads = more drama = you don't need that shit...
I don't remember what you look like but I imagine you a very attractive 24 yr old female...there are plenty of single 23-30 yr olds w/o a bunch of kids that would die to be with you....
now there's my asshole uhhhh opinion....;)
*EDIT* I just saw your pic again, and you are a very pretty girl....
ohiochica
02-02-2003, 06:41 PM
realize i am not looking to get married tonight, i am just browsing.
ohiochica
02-02-2003, 06:43 PM
thanks, i hope i have more to offer than looks though. looks dont make a girl sexy, he personaliyh does. yes thta goes for guys too!
Originally posted by ohiochica
realize i am not looking to get married tonight, i am just browsing.
duely noted.....
Originally posted by ohiochica
thanks, i hope i have more to offer than looks though. looks dont make a girl sexy, he personaliyh does. yes thta goes for guys too!
well, I'm sure you do and I agree with you 100%...I am kinda sorta looking right now and to be honest with you, looks aren't real high of a priority for me......
mt.biker
02-02-2003, 06:49 PM
looks dont make the girl, the girl makes the looks.. if you catch my drift.
and see there were details missing :yes:
ohiochica
02-02-2003, 07:03 PM
yes details were missing, but i didnt think they mattered, atleast they dont to me. teh age thing is teh only thing that concerns me
Originally posted by ohiochica
yes details were missing, but i didnt think they mattered, atleast they dont to me. teh age thing is teh only thing that concerns me
then screw what everyone else says and do what you think is right.....
ShEaNy
02-02-2003, 07:20 PM
personally....i wouldnt go out with someone more then 5 years older...or 2 younger....my 2 cents....
Originally posted by sheany_91accord
personally....i wouldnt go out with someone more then 5 years older...or 2 younger....my 2 cents....
but this is also coming from a guy that obviously can't read ;)
Originally posted by ohiochica
ok this is only for the people that are legally old enough to drink......
:pfft:
ShEaNy
02-02-2003, 07:30 PM
HEY in canada Who buys the booze? ME :loco: ;) :yes:
ebpda9
02-02-2003, 07:30 PM
Originally posted by sheany_91accord
personally....i wouldnt go out with someone more then 5 years older...or 2 younger....my 2 cents....
and that comes from a guy that gets only a hug on a first date after he gets broke. Sorry Sheany
well becky you are old enough to take your own decisions. do what you think it's right for you
ShEaNy
02-02-2003, 07:32 PM
ya..well SHES shy....ill get her...dont u worry.:loco: ;) :o
PoleMan14
02-02-2003, 10:18 PM
nobody actually guessed the age of my girlfriend when i put pics up the other day......rob said she looks a lot older than me and i'm 18.......she is almost 15:paranoid: ..........so IMO age dosnt matter, we get along great and she looks older anyways:yes:
statutory rape blah blah blah i dont want to here it!
GirlRacer
02-02-2003, 10:47 PM
I'd have to say that's too old.
That whole scene from Big Daddy leaps to mind!
"His old BALLS" :loco: :no:
ohiochica
02-02-2003, 11:01 PM
roflmao...............i love you guys, you put so much character in everything.
ebpda9
02-03-2003, 08:43 AM
Originally posted by AccordinStyle
Becky, let me break it down for you
35 yr old w/kids = he was married for a while = he has an ex-wife = you have to deal with that ex-wife if you are with the 35 yr old w/kids = drama up the ying yang = if these kids don't like you, they'll be a bunch of shitheads = more drama = you don't need that shit...
you sound like a "lifetime original movie" :loco: ;)
msvtec14
02-03-2003, 10:56 AM
My best friend and I are 21. She has been seeing a 40 year old for almost a year. He requested than my friend and I have some drinks with him and his friend. I did. This guy was 35. And I really don't really feel that it was that weird. I am seeing someone though that I'm really into though and I made that clear to this old guy.
msvtec14
02-03-2003, 10:57 AM
Originally posted by msvtec14
My best friend and I are 21. She has been seeing a 40 year old for almost a year. He requested than my friend and I have some drinks with him and his friend. I did. This guy was 35. And I really don't really feel that it was that weird. I am seeing someone though that I'm really into though and I made that clear to this old guy.
sorry. I put though too many times.
Addict
02-03-2003, 12:09 PM
Heck yeah he treats you good. You're a young woman to him.
Do what you like, but 3 kids? Holy crap that's asking for issues.
ohiochica
02-03-2003, 12:25 PM
i have not actually been out with him, but my theory is this i wont even give him a second chance if he does not treat me good thats how i know he would. and as for his kids i love his son, thats how i met this guy he was picking up his son at a school where i substitute at. we are going out tonight to grab dinner and maybe go bowling at jillians. we should have fun, if not then i have nothing to stress over becasue then age wont mattter and he will be history. i think i was jumping the gun on my questions because i am really not even slightly interested in another relationship (i know he isnt either) i just know that the minute my family finds out his age, they are going to freak out on me. oh hell i 'll know if thye approve by tonight. i know this is going to sound weird but if my mom (who is deceased) doesnt like a guy i get weird things happening to me. like one time my doors on my car wouldnt open, another time my watch hours went backwards.
ok sorry for babbling..........smile and have a great day!
mt.biker
02-03-2003, 01:59 PM
really I hope you just have a good time.... take it from there. The age/kids thing would be a problem if you two become an item. But right now you're just friends and what not... see where it goes from there and if you feel like starting a relationship more then just friends, remember he has already done alot of the things you will want - like kids- and dont forget to bring it up with us :yes:
KwikR6
02-03-2003, 02:28 PM
I haven't read any of the pages...except for the first 4 posts.
But who cares. It's not my life. As long as they are happy and no harm is done and there aren't any hidden ajendas.
If they are truley in LOVE...why does it matter to us. It's not our life.
my parents are 13 years apart...age makes no differance...kids could be a problem though.
ebpda9
02-03-2003, 06:09 PM
Originally posted by Kyle
my parents are 13 years apart...age makes no differance...kids could be a problem though.
looking at you i agree ;) JFWY
ohiochica
02-03-2003, 10:41 PM
lol stefan be nice to kyle.
well an update, we had some miscomunication and didnt meet until later in teh night, but we had an absolute blast! we went to jillians and bowled and then went to outback and had a dinner. he is so refreshing. we are so much alike in morals and likes and dislikes its scary. we talked tons about everything and have come to the conclusion that the age is not an issue. but he is concerned that he cant have kids and that i would want kids. i explained to him thta i dont want to give birth but i do want kids (been my goal for many many years to adopt) and he says "so would you be willing to adopt?" we talked alot and decided to just take things at a snails pace. ;) i am actually very glad i went out with him tonight.
Glad to hear that you had a good time and everything worked out Becky...good luck with whatever happens....
Addict
02-04-2003, 06:38 AM
Originally posted by ohiochica
but he is concerned that he cant have kids and that i would want kids.
I take it he got snipped after kid #3?
Well good luck to you two.
DsBlu01CivEX
02-04-2003, 11:10 AM
ok...so I'm a lil late gettin to the boards in general. My opinion BEFORE the date would have been the age thing=fine. I don't have a huge problem with age differences. Where my problem would have come into play is the kid issue. Which sure shouldn't be an issue, but it would have been for me. I'm 22...nowhere near ready to have kids...nor be a motherly figure to my bf's kids.
Opinion after the date: I'm very glad that the 2 of you had a such a great time and that you connect on so many levels. I'm also glad to hear that you're going to take it slowly. Do your thang girl!
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